how do you manage anger?

Question

im a teenager and i have a lot of trouble managing anger, especially with my parents, i usually end up swearing at them of breaking something. It's really hard for me to control and i keep getting in trouble for it. can anyone help me out?

Answer 1

Beyond reframing the experience, the two anger management programs Lochman has worked on use three techniques to defuse anger once it develops.

Distraction. "If you feel yourself start getting angry and recognize that it's a problem, you focus on something else, such as what you're doing later that day," Lochman says. The classic distraction, counting to 10, actually seems to work.


"Self-talk" or "self-instruction" can be repeated silently, carrying a message like, "I'm going to keep cool, I won't let this person get me into trouble." Self-talk can act like a little recording, he adds. "We do role plays, they practice being taunted and teased."

A limited version of relaxation technique.

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Answer 2

Wow, that Canuck guy did a great job. I would like to add faith to all of that, though. You really need faith, even though you may not think so. I don't mean the go to church and 'get it' type of faith. You need to live your faith and truly have God to be happy. Happiness is the opposite of anger.

I can't wait to check out that website, great advice. Journaling is an excellent way to get your feelings out of yourself. If you are overreacting to a situation, that means that something else is really bothering you deep down inside. Sometimes it is easy to figure out what that is, and other times it takes a lot of thought. Good friends and a journal can really help you to figure out what is getting to you, and then you can control it. Right now, there is something driving you to be angry. Stop the car, see what is driving, put it where it belongs, and then step into the drivers seat. That, of course, is an analogy, but will work if you do it. Don't forget, as I beleive you are a young person, that good friends are hard to come by, and be careful who you choose to confide in. You may be better off with that journal or a close relative.

God speed.

Answer 3

The first answer is pretty idiotic, parents who abuse their children and punish them by slapping are ENCOURAGING violent behaviour in their children....who could end up abusing their children when they grow up!

When you feel angry, you need to write down what is making you angry, write down whatever comes to mind and walk out of the room. Leave the room where the people are who made you angry and breathe. Ask yourself if that few seconds of destructions is worth it. You will calm down in a few minutes. Deep breathing/counting can help. Learn relaxation techniques when you're not angry so that they come naturally. Also, try a sport such as boxing or just work out to release your tension. Good luck.

Answer 4

you know that anger is an inborn capability of human being. i usually used to get angry on my parents. if u frankly ask me how to control anger than the solution is remain silent. if it dosent work for u that means u r more aggresive and for that u can use other way like workout.
and if still u r not satisfied than start maintaining one diary where u can write ur anger story and refer it regularly it will defenitely help u and ur parents to live peacefully...

try it atleast once.

Answer 5

I find that exercising and meditation help with my anger. I also try to find things that will keep my interest for a while so that I can diffuse my anger.

Answer 6

for one you should never disrespect your parents, if it wasn't for them you wouldn.t be here., and it's real easy to control your temper, 1. walk away, or 2 do something that takes your mind off anger like sports or video games, just respect your parents.

Answer 7

I have a dummy that I beat the living crap out of outside while filming myself, my GOSH is it hillarious, after watching the video I recognize how retarted I looked and that I was making a big deal out of nothing. You should try it sometime.

Answer 8

I write in a journal, listen to music, or just go somewhere to be alone. Sometimes it helps to do something physical like exercising or playing a sport.

Answer 9

ANGER MANAGEMENT CLASSES.
GO FOR A WALK.
PUNCH YOUR PILLOW.
TAKE DEEP BREATHES AND COUNT TO TEN.
BUY A PUNCHING BAG.
GOT WEIGHTS? WORK OUT WHEN YOU'RE PISSED.
DO YOU WRITE? KEEP A JOURNAL OF EVERY TIME YOU ARE ANGRY AND TRY TO KEEP YOURSELF FROM GETTING INTO THAT SITUATION.
GOOD LUCK.

Answer 10

ok you can scream into a pillow but if that doesnt work then ask for a punching bag or take karate i relieves alot of anger and makes you feel really good!