How can you catch your man cheating without looking like a stalker?

Question

I'm pretty sure my man that I have lived with for 2 years now is cheating on me with one or two girls (or more!!). The only way I will be completely sure is if I catch him with another girl.

He's never home anymore and never goes out with me anywhere anymore either. Every time I call him after he gets off of work he doesn't answer his phone but then calls me back about 5 minutes later and tells me he's at his best friend's house or at his other friends house.... I've passed by his best friend's house a couple times and his car wasn't there.... when I asked him why he always says "oh I was probably going to get beer from the store." ......Yea and I'm Paris Hilton!!! He must think I'm really dumb!!!

How do I catch him?....like really catch him in the act of liing or being with another girl? Have any good ideas without looking like a stalker?

Answer 1

Checking the cell phones does nothing but prove he talks on the phone.

If you really want to catch him in the act, hire a private investigator. They usually don't cost too too much, and you'll get results.

Just make sure you truely want to know. If he isn't, you'll feel very guilty that you didn't trust him. If he did, you'll be hurt. So make sure you're prepared, no matter what the outcome might be.

Answer 2

I believe that it is best that you don't even try to catch him cheating. What good would that do for you? If your relationship is almost non-existent, and if after talking it over with him doesn't resolve the situation, maybe it's time to move on. I don't think that cheating makes a relationship any worse than bad. Since you are not married anyway you may as well handle it like any other single would.

Answer 3

First of all from everything you say, I would wonder as well. Be patient he will slip up sooner or later. Actually your being a stalker might be the only way you find out for sure, unless one of the ladies call your home. Then you could hit *69 and find out who she is and ask her if she is dating your boyfriend,. Finally I would say maybe you should take a look at your relationship and make a decision if it is worth all the anxiety. If so, then you will have to wait for the big slip up. Also trust your gut feelings, usually when we have a feeling about something being wrong it usually is.

Answer 4

call in sick one day to work, but pretend like you are going and then follow him

check his phone when he goes to sleep or goes to the bathroom to see if there are any odd phonenumbers and keep a small pad and pencil handy to write them down

maybe call his friends and ask if they have seen him because you have an emergency at home (say the lights went out or something) and you need to reach him

check the history on the internet after he goes to bed or when he is in the shower, see if he's been on explicit websites...this may not always work, because you can delete stuff

those are all the tips i have for now, if i can think of more, i will edit this and add more

good luck

i was cheated on and these were fool-proof methods
my ex was careless about his phone and i got numbers off of there and he was seeing three women, so he got dumped

Answer 5

Call the show called "cheaters" and let them follow him around and catch him in the act. If you can't do that, then follow him in such away he won't know your there... Therefore he won't consider you stocking. But if your really don't trust him, that much, then I would say end the relationship, regardless if you catch him or not. You don't trust him, so why put yourself through all the emotional turmoil, just end it, and find someone you can totally trust that wants to spend time with you.

Answer 6

if your really sure hes cheating , then i wouldnt worry about looking like a stalker . barrow a car he wouldn't know and follow him after work , if you really want to know ... but from the sound of it, he doesn't care about you . even if there isn't another woman there is something else in his life more important. just break up with him . i wouldn't stew about over a man that doesn't want to be with me . go out and find someone that wants to be with you as much as you want them . don't sit at home waiting for something that's not going to be there tomorrow.

Answer 7

To be honest if he is playing the game right, you might not ever catch him. My advice is to not try and catch him but to find someone else to occupy your time. To go looking for evidence will make you look crazy. Shoot girl just start spending a little time at your "best friend's" house. Or just break it off with him period.

Answer 8

You know it is really hard to catch him in the act if you are looking for it. It will be when you least expect it. sorry to break it to you. But if you love him ask him if he is cheating and if he says no and later on you catch him cheating then you will know that he doesnt love you and you need to release him.

Answer 9

Why even bother? Why be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want to spend time with you?

You'd be better off finding someone who wants to spend time with you and who will treat you with more respect. There are so many people out there to choose from, don't let one guy disrespect you like that.

Answer 10

Hire someone to do the job , yup a private detective they would get you enough evidence that even North Kora would agree that they have a Nuke plan . Professional help is best that will save you all the trouble and will help you in case you decide to file a separation.