I feel so lonely?
The church that I go to people don't really date until they get older. Well one of my friends had kind of started going out with this guy. They don't call it dating but they are. I kind of feel lonely. I can't tell my friend that I feel this way because she might think that I don't understand her or her feelings. I don't feel left out when we are all together I just feel lonely in genral. I don't want to date anyone because I am only 14. But how can I cure my feelings of loneliness?
2006-11-10 15:35:34 · 15 answers · asked by actresst22 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most church-goers would think that 14 is too young for one-on-one dating. On the other hand, group activities could be an alternative. Does your church have any activities for people your age? How about your school? Possibly you could, with the help of a minister or teacher, create some group activities like movie nights, book discussions and other things.
2006-11-10 15:43:16 · answer #1 · answered by chuck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like that maybe since your friend is dating, she does not have as much time for you as before? If this is so, then I am sure you would feel somewhat lonely. You should consider getting involved into activities you like or trying new ones to see what you enjoy. I know that you wish the best for your friend right now, just enjoy the time you have with her. Meet other young people and get involved in activities with them. These types of things will cure your loneliness until you are actually ready to date. You are young, take time and enjoy life as this will keep you happy.
2006-11-10 23:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by VLEEKS47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am extremely lonely as well and Im just a 21 year old kid/guy/man. You have to deal with it and realize that there are people out there suffering much more than you are. You as an American have the opportunity to end your loneliness, others may not. Take advantage of this great opportunity and if the church isnt good enough, join a not so hardcore martial arts dojo, or a gym.
2006-11-10 23:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by Sir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a little bit jealous of the friendship. Not that I am insinuating that you are gay but you feel like a third wheel. You love your friend as a friend and now there is someone else taking her time away you use to get.
See if you can set up a certain day or days a week when just the two of you can go do something. Then try to find other things to get into when she's with him. Eventually you will find someone as well and be preoccupied with him.
2006-11-10 23:50:08 · answer #4 · answered by paperdoll1956 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well personally I don't think there's anything wrong with dating someone as long as you do it the right way and with the right guy. Guys can be big jerks so maybe introducing him to your parents will work. And about your friend.. maybe you should worry about yourself first so forget about what she thinks. Seek out for your happiness. And if you don't want to date no one, well go out more often. I don't know engage yourself in a sport or club, whatever. Just don't get depressed, everything that is supposed to happen will happen eventually!
2006-11-10 23:40:50 · answer #5 · answered by Brigitte 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 14...honey, get yourself a puppy or a kitty...They are great companions. And also teach responsibility at the same time. If you visit your local humane society I am sure you can find a pet that needs a home because they are very lonely in the shelter.
2006-11-10 23:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sharon R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im feeling that way right now...kinda gloomy and not myself.. except what did it to me was actually dating the guy. im 16 and the guy i dated is in the marines but i hate how he keeps in touch with me b/c i feel so lonley and not even knowing if he likes me or not. I don't understand what religious factors have anything to do with dating people. In my opinion its a whole differant religion in itself lol. but don't worry about it, try to hang out with your friends alot and wait untill the time comes where sparks fly with you and guys. I can't stand the way ive been feeling and none of my friends would understand it. I'm even to afraid to tell the guy thats been causing this feeling ...:- ( eh its life, things will blow by and people will have there good bad and better times
2006-11-10 23:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im married and feel lonley sometimes so being 14 and lonley isnt all that bad. You can do many things with out your friend whrn shes dating like scapbook, read, internet, movies, or you can go out in a group that way your not "dating" your hanning out with friends and who knows maybe youll find someone your interested in for next year when maybe youll be more ready
2006-11-10 23:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough situation, but to cure your lonlyness have you tried doing activities that reach out of your normal group of friends? For instance going to high school football games and meeting tons of new people and doing new things. Usually change is all you need. I hope this helps...
2006-11-10 23:41:43 · answer #9 · answered by mastap425 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many things could be said about this but, I say one of these things is that you are at that age where hormones cause different things to happen in your head being out with friends helps but if it is out with friends that are couples that only makes things worse for you,talk to your pastor,and parents trust me they will understand you. Most of all talk with God open your heart to him, he will help you . I hope you find these words to be of some help.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-10 23:50:20 · answer #10 · answered by sptech1994 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋