I have a friend whos a girl who has a friend that she really like and she thinks that he likes her, but he hasnt said anything and hasnt asked her out but she thinks he is makeing hints. so she wants to tell him her feelings and ask him out, but she doesnt want to have him say no and ruin their friendship. what should she do cause she really wants to be more than friends but doesnt want to loose what she already has.
2006-11-10 15:17:48 · 52 answers · asked by lightsabre91 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she has to take the chance sounds like. I'm sure it won't ruin the friendship.
2006-11-10 15:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by Tom B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In today's world, it is not uncommon for a woman to ask a guy out. If she asks and he says no, no harm done. At least she has shown her interest in return for his "hints". If she is that concerned about the friendship dissolving because of a question, then it isn't really a friendship, it is more of an acquaintance. IN either case, the only way she is going to get an answer is to go ahead and ask.
2006-11-10 15:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is risky, but if you have feelings for the guy then just ask him out on a date. Should he say no, just be mature enough to accept his answer and the friendship should remain in tack. If he says yes, then you have hit the jackpot. You may get lucky and have a friend and a lover, which is a better relationship in the long run. Go for it.
2006-11-10 15:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by VLEEKS47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way she will ever know is to ask. The worst he can do is say no. I did that once. In my case he said yes. We ended up dating for about 4 years. Before we dated we were best friends for about 2 years.
Unfortunately it didn't work out for us but at least I haven't gone through my life wondering.
2006-11-10 15:22:20 · answer #4 · answered by Elisabeth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should ask him to go out to eat or be in a comfortable setting and tell him not all of her feeling but tell him she would like to take their friendship to another level. most men will respect your honesty. but she should explain if he want to just remain friends she will accept that. if they have a true friendship by her telling him how she feels will not ruin that.
2006-11-10 15:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by sunshinebear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should sit with him and talk casually like they normally do. Then ask simply, Hey Donny (or whomever) would you be interested in having dinner with me, just the two of us?
If he says yes, that's it. If he says no, tell her to act very casual, like it is no big deal and say, "Okay, maybe next time." then change the subject and keep talking like always.
If he says no and she acts sad or embarrased that will make him feel bad or trapped and then the friendship is in danger. Just stay "breezy."
2006-11-10 15:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically it comes down to what she wants, a decision she is going to have to make. And it's hard because you chance losing that person as a friend if you go out on a date and nothing works or he says he's not interested. What you have to do is weigh the consequences and figure out what you are willing to risk.
2006-11-10 15:23:07 · answer #7 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through the same situation and I gave him some time and waited a while then I finally asked him if he liked me ,he said yes and now we've been going out for about 10 months now.We're basically in love.
2006-11-10 15:33:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really really likes him then it's worth taking the risk!!!
My suggestion is that she just waits it out>>>>>what's the point of compromising a friendship...if it's meant to be something more it will all fall into place...all on its own. Sometimes time and patience takes care of everything that you really need in life!!
2006-11-10 15:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like everyone is telling you to tell her to tell him, or ignore it. Under usual circumstances, I'd say to tell him. Don't live life asking yourself what if. But in this case, I offer a different solution. You are her friend. Do you know the guy she is interested in? Make sure she is okay with you doing this, first. If so, I would suggest that you talk to the guy. Make it sound like you know someone that is interested in her and see what his reaction is. If he seems jealous, tell her to talk to him. If he seems fine with it, tell her to keep it as friends.
2006-11-10 15:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋