No one ever asks me out and I know that I am not unattractive, they just stare. To women------what is it that attracts a guy to u and do u have any advice as to why I am constantly being looked over. Guys are free to answer!!!!!
2006-11-10 15:16:49 · 25 answers · asked by HIGHLY FAVORED 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If a guy is just staring, he is mostly thinking that he would like to ask you out, but you probably have a boyfriend.....are most likely out of his league..... is afraid of the rejection that, in their mind, is sure to come by asking.......and any number of similar thoughts. Truly, what he is thinking is what you would look like with him. But most of the guys in this world lack the needed courage to cross that invisible boundary which separates the attractive female from the rest of us guys.
Just so you know, you are not being looked over, but you are being checked out and possibly fantasized about. Would it hurt you to break that boundary yourself? Maybe when you see someone looking at you (or staring as you say), you could walk over and break the ice by letting them know that you might be interested. Just start a conversation and see where it leads, you don't have to strip down and jump his bones right there. Now that would be a real introduction, but totally unnecessary.
2006-11-10 15:42:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men avoid asking women out because they don't want to be embarrassed if the woman rejects their advances. Perhaps you appear to have a strong personality and men are afraid that even though they find you attractive, that they will be chastised by you if you're not interested. Another possibility, and forgive me as I don't know you and could be completely off base, but perhaps there's something in particular that scares men off. Physical attraction, while extremely important, isn't the only thing that draws two people together.
2006-11-10 23:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by captainmcsorley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confidence, confidence, confidence. Go out with ONLY one or two friends that you are comfortable with and just have fun.
Gangs of women are NOT inviting! The more you worry about meeting guys, they less interesting you will be to us. Women go out in hoards together to "support" each other. But, that's never how it actually works out. All those women act like a team defense insuring that no guy will try.
One or two good girlfriends will help you show your confident, attractive self. Three or more girls is a gang. Got it?
2006-11-10 23:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by wittmasterjay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even attractive people like you can be ignored. Women you meet probably think you are unattainable or unapproachable because they may think you are out of their league, that they don't have a chance. You hear that all the time from famous people. My suggestion is that when you are around women you like, let them know what a great guy you are, that you aren't just a pretty person with no thoughts. Let them know about you, the whole package. People are also more scared to approach someone because rejection hurts, affects your self esteem. I really hope you meet someone. Good luck.
2006-11-10 23:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to them more. It helps if you are on some type of team and you talking to them also will help. Sometimes some guys are just jerks though and they will continue ot stare and not talk to you.. The best advice I can give you is pick out one guy that is single that you would relaly like to go out with and start a realtionship (firned realtionship) and see where it goes from there.
2006-11-10 23:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by actresst22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's assume you are rated an 8 on a scale of 1-10. Having said that, you fall into a category that most males find hard to approach. They assume you have a b/f, husband or are picky and not approachable. In your case, I would be more aggressive and do the asking!
2006-11-10 23:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your attitude is why. If you are attractive, guys might want to ask you out but be afraid. Don't be so shy and feel free to show interest in a guy. They LOVE that.
2006-11-10 23:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by man_of_mustard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be the one filling the role of "everybodys friend" or people are scared to ask you out b/c of rejection. Alot of guys said that they wouldn't ever ask certain girls out because they are out of there league. Give it time, because we mature faster than them so were not as scared as them lol
2006-11-10 23:20:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to ask yourself, ar u open and fun loving?
Do u smile alot? U aren't being a no it all?
Guys love girls smiles and laughter, it;s what catchs
there eyes, but not in a group, they tend to go for the
slutty girl, its a guy thing, these relationships never last!
2006-11-10 23:23:21 · answer #9 · answered by Nanniekc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask Kerby! You want someone to ask you out and he needs "some" (whatever that may be). If you have no idea who I'm referring to, he's the gentleman who posted a question just above you.
2006-11-10 23:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by evesmystique 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋