Why do people that don't have children....?

Question

hate on people that do have them?

hate on those that do have them?

I just wanted to note that nobody I know personally has acted this way towards me. It's some of the comments that I read on here. It's very disturbing.

Answer 1

some people hate on other because its a way to make them feel better, in some situations the people hating on the others that have children do this because maybe they cant have children of their own and it upsets them so the only thing to do is say something to make them feel better. But it never does. Some of them do this because they want children but prob havent found the right person for it and feel as if they keep nagging on others it will help. ANd some people just have problems they need to deal with and take them out on children. I cant stand when someone does this but i guess its there way of explaining themselves. ( they need to try something else) children are wonderful i dont see how anyone couldnt love them.

Answer 2

I'm a 39 year old woman who does not have children and I do not hate people with children nor am I jealous of them. I chose not to have kids and actually, I have often felt the opposite way - that people with kids look at me as irresponsible or immature or selfish due to my life choice. So, I guess it goes both ways. I do, by the way, have three pets and four nieces which I adore (I know it's not the same!)

Answer 3

Now that I have a beautiful little boy I look back to before I had children. I certainly did not HATE people who had children, but, in many ways, I was still a child myself and I wanted the full attention of whomever I was speaking to.

In part I, personally, wanted this because it's what I endeavor to give to others and because it takes a lot of focus and attention to get the full import of most of what I talk about. But, for most people WITH children it's next to impossible to give someone other than their children or spouse that kind of intense focus. So I was frustrated with my friends who had children at times because they couldn't be the kind of friend that I expected them to be.

Now I know you can't expect the same thing from everyone. Instead it's important to focus on the good each individual uniquely provides for those around them and on what we can give to others instead of always thinking about what we can get from them.

People with children have different priorities, as a rule, than those without. Differences tend to drive wedges between people, no matter what they are.

I hope that makes sense.

Answer 4

I don't know what you mean when you say "people" in general. Do you have some friends who behave that way? If so you should point blank ask them what the problem is. If someone you don't know and are not friends with have behaved this way toward you, you should question them immediately what point they are trying to make. You owe no one an explanation if you never have children. It is your decision and no one else wears your shoes and lives your life. Whatever the reason is that they say those things, jealousy or whatever, they have no right. They have chosen one path of life and you have chosen another.

Answer 5

Part is jealousy and a lot is the fact that they don't have tolerance for the things that kids do for which their parents always forgive them.

For example if a baby cries on an airplane, people without kids are more pissed than those with. Parents know that sooner or later they will be on a flight with their own screaming child.

Answer 6

Some people who do not have children have a hard time understanding them. They may view childish energy and exuberance as misbehavior and feel that the parents should firmly discipline the kids. Parents on the other hand are accustomed to kids being kids and are oblivious to the fact that it is annoying to some.

Answer 7

People hate one other people who have children? How stupid is that? Almost too stupid to believe. Um, maybe they have a disease of cancer or something that prevents them fom having children. But then again they can go adopt. Maybe they don't have money to adopt? Spend time with a little kid that they know (through the parent of course), but then that would look wierd after a while right? NO R. KELLY'S OR MICHEAL JACKSONS OVER HERE! Well, then they **** out of luck!

Answer 8

My son and his wife have decided not to have children (much to my dismay) and I've heard them talk badly of their friends who do have children. I don't think it's so much that they hate people with children--it's more that their friends can't just jump and run out to dinner or a movie or a weekend trip without finding a babysitter. They're used to just "on a whim" getting into the car and taking off and their friends with children can't do that. (Not a good answer--but it's all I got now!!)

Answer 9

The same reason why people who don't have children write books telling you how to raise children because they don't have anything better to do other than voice their opinion and we all know peoples opinions are like a**holes everybody has one, mainly the people who don't have children and don't have a clue in how to raise them.

Answer 10

Rest easy - Toogood.
Why Non-childen-bearing families have different perspectives on Children-bearing families relates to MANY issues. - They could be harboring hidden issues about "families" or they could be so enamoured about the "family"-concept that they see that as an unattainable "dream."
WHO KNOWS why such questions remain unanswered?
I hope that I have shined *some glimmer of light* on your question to satisfy your enqusitive mind.