In a family should a wife be under her husband's control?

Question

Read the quran, bible or torah. It says men and women were created for different purposes. That man is supposed to lead and the woman to follow. It says they are equal of god but there are never equal and never can be equal.

Men are better in some fields and women are better in other fields. But the leadership of the family is the man.

I am not saying a woman is a slave but in islam, women have a lot of rights. Like they can work but still the husband has to provide for them and they can keep the money for themselves.

But do you think husband should be a leader and a wife should accept it like we all accept our presidents, prime ministers to lead. If we don't like them, we get rid of them. The same way, we also have the right to divorce the man.

But in a marriage should a man be the leader?

God has said this and surely god cannot be wrong

Answer 1

The King James Version of the Holy Bible states: █

1 Peter 3: 1 & 7 –8

3. Likewise, ye wives be in subjection to your won husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

7. Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

8. Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren be pitiful, be courteous:

Meanings are as follows;

3= wives do what the husband says and if he is not a religious person then you should not get on them about this but continue to be a good example of your religion to them.

7= be good to your wives and honor and worship her knowing that you are stronger than her protect her always that your prayers may be heard.

8= come to decisions together, having love for one another, be kind to each other, have compassion toward and be nice to each other

If men put their wives on a pedestal like this it is easy to have him be the head of the household. That means providing for her welfare and taking responsibility for what happens in all circumstances, and protecting her from all harm and treating her like she is his queen. In doing this he makes her his equal but takes the responsibility of being provider and unpleasant consequences of actions from her upon himself.

Answer 2

Yes, the man needs to be the leader of the household. God created him to handle things that involve finances and decisions concerning the well-being of the family as a whole. That is a lot of burden if you ask me. And it the woman's place by choice to submit to that authority given to man by God. And by doing such, we also sumbit to God's will. As well see in the Bible in the book of Ephesians chapter 5:22-26:

22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word

Also refer to Colossians 3:18-19:

18Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

19Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

And as wives submit to thier husband's out of reverence for the Lord, thier husbands ought to choose to in turn love thier wives. Unfortunately, many women and men today have the word submission defined by the world's terms...where God has different terms concerning the word. Sumbission by the world's standards = doormat to a woman. To a man, it means he has the right to control the woman on anything she does. Bascially the world takes a small peice of something, and makes a mountain out of a molehill. Submission by the Lord's standards is based on choice. It is based on love. Submission is not a term to define slavery, it is a term to define love. Honestly, I was once a feminist mindset type person who dared not let a man walk on me. I have my mother to thank for teaching me that, but her experiences rubbed off on me before I ever had a chance to understand the term. Now that I have gotten in the word, and I have learned God's will for my life as a woman...I have learned that women and men are created different, yet equal. We each are the same in the fact we are human, have emotions, and generalized stuff such as this. But we are very different in the roles we are designed to handle. And for a woman to submit to the authority of her husband (and authoirty means he just simply makes the final decision in the household...because two heads creates a monster), takes a lot more courage than it does to stand on one's own feet and make the decision on her own and do it her way. And that courage prods a man to want to stp us and be the man she can trust and look to so he can help he anytime she needs him. And in turn that prods the man to choose to love his wife. It is all a delicate balance...a dance if you will. And when we try to re-create the dance...it gets messy; hence why you see so many divorces and domestic problems today. People are trying to re-create the dance God created a long time ago to promote harmony. And that harmony is through submission. Think of it this way ladies...break it down. Sub- is under...so when you submit to your husband's, it only means you are under the mission...you support it. You provide a stable foundation for that mission to be carried out. Even when you see a crack in the foundation when your husband cannot, still provide that support...because in the end he will discover the crack and fill it in which will only strengthen it greater when he does. Our job is to just support...to TRUST. And that is a huge thing for women these days because so many are taught trust must be earned, not given. Not according to God...it is the other way around. And men, please understand for her to submit to you does not mean she is your slave...someone you control. Remember, she is human and an indvidual creation just as you are. No one it put in place to rule over her, but to guide her. That is your role...to guide her...to take her on a journey. That is a huge responsiblity, one I really am thankful I do not have. I would much rather be my husband's support than be the one to blaze the trail ahead of us.

Please, I encourage all who read this message...read the books Wild at Heart and Captivating. Wild at Heart is by John Eldredge, and Captivating in by him and his wife Staci Eldredge. Also, get in the word...and believe in it. It is truth, it is life. God Bless.