If a guy likes you, should he ask you out or should he somehow find out whether you want to be asked out? Do you get annoyed sometimes when asked out because he didn't do something first, like get to know you well or see if you pay enough attention to him?
2006-11-10 14:45:29 · 126 answers · asked by Jonathan H 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its always flattering-
2006-11-10 14:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 7⤋
I think you should know something about the girl at least a friend knowledge of her. And a girl who pays so much attention is not the best way to figure out if it is the right way. Because she will probably yes, but I don't think you want a girl that spends all her time on the guy, do you?
The girl wants you to know something about her besides her name and place you met her at. That way you both know you could build up from that. That way she feels more comfortable talking to you knowing something about you.
2006-11-10 14:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by someone ha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that if a guy likes the girl, he should get to know her and then ask her out, but don't wait too long to ask her out or she'll start thinking of you as just a friend. Also, you never know if she's into you too, and just wants you to make the first move.
2006-11-13 15:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by azneeyoresk89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, I'd prefer to be asked out directly. Why waste weeks or months of paying attention or flirting when you can figure out if you like each other enough after the first date?
If you "find out" from a friend of mine or whatever, that makes me think you are a coward. You know what? ... No thanks.
Plus - if you are flirting over too long a period and don't step up and ask already - this girl loses interest.
2006-11-10 14:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by firehorsetwo 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
All guys should go for it and make their move, they don't have to do anything first!!
There aren't enough guys out there that are brave enough to ask out the girl they like! We girls are all waiting for a nice guy to tell us that they like us...
Being asked out is definitely flattering, no matter if you like the guy back or not... But sometimes I get a little annoyed, b/c I don't like the guy that way and I feel that he messed up our friendship by asking me out... And it is very complicated to find out how to turn him down w/o hurting his feelings too much ;)
2006-11-10 15:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ AnGeL oF cLaRiTy ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you cant tell if a girl likes you then dont rely on other sources to find out because things could get confusing. You should just build up a friendly rapport with the lady in question and if you still like her after getting to know her better, you should definately ask. I love when a guy shows the courage to ask me out because it shows he is willing to go after what he wants. All you can get is a yes or a no!
2006-11-10 15:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by GirlyGirl 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Girls loved to get asked out. We may love who asks us. Its all in the delivery. You can simple introduce yourself if she doesn't know you and tell her that you find her attractive and would like to take her for dinner and a walk (an active place where you can see things that she can comment on). You need to be smooth with it. Stay away from cliches (you must be tired cuz you've been running through my mine) kind of lines. Have a nice simple day planned. Dinner, a walk and maybe a dance if your older. Stay away from the movies, no conversation is held there.
2006-11-10 15:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by Keymay 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey I'm a girl and I LOVE to be asked out by a guy I like or think is cute or funny. I like to get to know the guy well when I go out with him; if he hasn't already told me about him. I HATE it when guys have no confidence and can't ask a girl out or talk to her b/c he thinks he is stupid/retarded/ or ugly. Looks aren't the only thing that matters in life, actually, I like a guy that is funny more than looks. It turns me on when a guy just comes up to me nicely and asks me out in a confident way. Look the girl straight in the eyes and say, "Hey, whats up? So how are you doing? Do you want to go out and do something?" Say something like that. Remember to always look at her straight in her eyes and not on her boobs or body! Don't look down at your feet and don't whisper or talk lightly. Talk just loud enough where she can hear you very well, and talk in a relaxed and nice tone. I also ALWAYS love it when a guy makes the first move. Most guys today are too shy to, which is a turn off! Don't be shy at all! Act yourself and just have confidence, cuz at least you won't be wondering the rest of your life if she would of went out with you if you had asked her out!
2006-11-10 14:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by Cynthia K 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The best advice I can give anyone is to just be straight forward.
1. If it is a girl who you don't know very well but want to in a more personal setting- tell her. Something as simple as "I always see you around campus but we never get a chance to talk, is there any way I could take you out for coffee to get to know you better?"
2. If it is a girl you hang out with in a group, call her when you know she isn't busy or hanging out with her friends and just ask her. Don't beat around the bush or make up dumb stories. You can always ask her out on a not-so-serious date like lunch or coffee or ice cream if you think it would make her more comfortable.
I hate when anyone is not straight forward with me. If a girl denys your request for a date, ask her why. Maybe going to dinner is too serious for her or god knows what. Make an effort to figure out why she said no and work with it but don't keep bugging her. My husband told me no when I asked him to date me and when I figured out why; I made it work. We have been together for about five years now.
2006-11-10 15:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by Erin H 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He should find out whether he likes you then he should make his move if he asks a girl out more than once in a week or so the girl wont want to be near you so if she says no then in about 2 weeks ask her out if she is single, then if she says no do it in 2 more weeks but make sure your friends say you look good enough to ask anyone out if so go for it!!!!! :-P LOL :-)
P.S. I would love to go out with you e-mail me at christy_baker_101@yahoo.com please and send a pic of you and I'll answer you yes or no LOL I'm not kidding
2006-11-10 15:07:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
of course we like to be asked out....that way u could learn more for the other person...when u go out on a first day u learn things about the other and u know if u can continue with your plan or find smb else....i dont thik its annoying to ask the girl out...
2006-11-11 21:50:13 · answer #11 · answered by -- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋