how do u get to know someone??? ive hung out with the same ppl for 2 years now and i just met this guy and im hangin with him tomorrow...wut questions would i ask to get a good conversation sparked up? no rude comments plz!!
2006-11-10 14:45:24 · 65 answers · asked by Raven S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know people always say this but : BE YOURSELF!
just lying about the smallest thing might end your relationship later on and he'd like you for the person you say you are not the one you really are (a bit confusing-soz).. just ask him about himself, his background, what he does, why he's doing what he's doing, if he's got siblings.. just questions you'd ask any other person that you'd wanted to get to know.. just maybe dont ask them all on the same or it might scare him off.. make you appear a stalker.. also LISTEN to him.. most gyus prefer girls who are able to listen to them and are not waiting for them to finish talking sothey can go on about themselves!!!!
ok wow i think the second part of this amswer is more important than the first part so just make sure you LISTEN to him!!!
Good Luck and all the best ;-)
2006-11-10 15:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by blithe_vow 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
The best way to get to know someone is to ask questions and let the other person speak.
Ask simple questions about common interests, music, sports, school, etc.
Ask what they were doing earlier during the day and take cues from what they say.
Don't be afraid of silence. Not everyone has to have noise and chatter all the time. Some people however do become uncomfortable if people aren't talking.
If they ask questions of you, then tell them outright that you're a shy person. They will appreciate your honesty. And do your best to answer the questions they ask as well as you can within your comfort level.
2006-11-10 15:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by m0nde 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1 What kind of music do you like?2 Did you have a pet when you where little? 3Whats your favorite movie? Best quote from movie 4Whats your favorite holiday & why?5 Any siblings, if so whats the worst thing, you ever did to or with them.? 6What is, or was your best class at school?8 What is your best childhood memory?9 Favorite book? Any of these questions can start a conversation going, and you will learn some thing a bout this guy, if the first question doe'nt get a response, try another, there will be some subject that gets him talking. Good luck & have fun!
2006-11-10 15:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask him questions about himself. Where was he born? What was it like growing up? Ask about his family members and close friends. Talk about current events, such as, movies he may have seen, sports, classes. Being a good listener and doing follow-up questions to his input is essential. This is an opportunity to gauge what type of a conversationalist he is, also. If it is a first meeting avoid conversations of a personal nature. If anything is asked of you, and it is uncomfortable, say, 'that's something we would discuss when we know each other better.' Smile, and move right on. Don't discuss old issues about old boyfriends. Keep your responses light and not extremely lengthy. Don't be uncomfortable with silence...it's okay to pause and take in the environment.
2006-11-10 15:16:24 · answer #4 · answered by Serena M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk with him about music and movies, most everyone enjoy the both of these items. If you are up on sports u could discuss this with your new friend. Then there is the topics of past time activities that he may enjoy and share things that u like too do as well. As I am sure after the conversation gets started that both of u will be able to find a lot to talk about, unless he shy. If so just go for it, as once both of u are comfortable I sure you will have a lot to say.
2006-11-10 15:15:54 · answer #5 · answered by VLEEKS47 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I always ask a person their hobbies, intrest in movies, music. That alone will spark a conversation with a guy, because you can say "Oh! I hate that group broke up" " I love the guitar in the group" Men like to talk about themselves, so just listen to him and do not give too much of yourself on the first date, leave a little mystery.
2006-11-10 15:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by A D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You ask him something about himself. (Where do you work/go to school? Were you born here?Do you have any siblings?) Be interested in what he says and pay attention to his answers. That will spark other questions. If he gives you one word answers, you can link one of your own experiences with his answer and tell him a little about you. Just be sure not to make the conversation ALL about you, or he won't think you're interested in what he's got to say. Stay away from questions that could start arguments. As a rule...no religion, politics or sports! Good luck!!!
2006-11-10 14:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi there. Make eye contact when you are talking with someone. When they talk, listen, nod, and repeat back some of the things you heard, and ask questions. You sound shy so what you can do is bring up a controversial topic like Politics, Crime, or Religion, and they will probably start off the conversation. For me, what I do is ask how they are, ask about their family, ask how work is, really ask about their hobbies. It's great to if you ask them what movies they want to see, then you can say you want to see that movie too and maybe they will ask you to go with them.. Just relax and be yourself. They wouldn't be hanging around you if they didn't like you. Good luck.
2006-11-10 15:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just be a good listener this first time. Let him do most of the talking! Ask some questions, you know: job, family, music, hobbies. If there is a lot of chemistry between you, the conversation will take a life of its own! Best of luck to you!
2006-11-10 14:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by whrldpz 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask him about his interests. Does he play sports or what does he do for a living. Ask him questions that pertain to your life style, such as do you like to camp, movies, and what kind of music does he like if that is what you like. Once you get the conversation going you can feed off of your questions. Hopefully he isn't a dud and just gives simple answers like yes or no. Hopefully he will elaborate further on your questions.
2006-11-10 15:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by paperdoll1956 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can soooo relate. But now I am in my thirties and have improved...YAY You are already onto the fact that you want to ask HIM questions vs. babbling on and on about yourself all day. Cool. Some of that is OK, but so many people are self involved that way.
Social skills are learned all throughout life. You sound very considerate. I think you just need a little confidence. :)
Relax and let it flow. What about him are you curious about? Philosophies, upbringing, movies, music, sports, food. Politics and religion are edgy with some people, better to feel it out before getting too heavy.
Good luck. It sounds like you really like him.
2006-11-10 15:07:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋