once in a while my girlfriend talks to her ex bf on the phone, that pisses me off. Idk what to do because then if i tell her she'll get pissed. she hates it when I talk to girls on the phone. what should I do?
2006-11-10 14:24:47 · 28 answers · asked by miapla305 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is absoulutely NO excuse to why she should be talking to her Ex on the phone. Who cares if she gets pissed that you are pissed about it! She should respect you enough NOT to talk to him....she's not with him anymore she is with you! If my fiancee talked to one of his ex's all the time there would be a HUGE problem for him! Speak your mind because personally I do not think you are in the wrong at all!! Good Luck!
2006-11-10 14:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you also get pissed if she talk to her ex in the phone the same way she get pissed if she sees you talking to a girl in the phone. Anyway, if she's with you already, why she must answer her ex's call while you're in a date with her? Tell her to be honest. Ask her to choose. You or that guy. She can't go with two guys at the same time. That means she is playing with you. Go real. Just ask for honesty. If you don't, she might go back to that guy again. Show that you're pissed off. Or, just make a deal with her. No phone during date.
2006-11-10 22:40:46 · answer #2 · answered by S.Y. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't handle this by calling a girl. That will just create more drama. You need to sit down and talk to her. She needs to understand that a relationship is a two way street and respect has to be given on both ends. She can not tell you not to talk to other woman anymore than you can tell her not to talk to other men. She is your g/f, not your mother and the same goes for you. There has to be trust in a relationship for it to work. If she does not want you to talk to girls then she will have to ask, not tell but she will have to do the same for you. No talking to men. You two need to get your priorities straight and decide what or who is more important. Each other or this guy or that girl.
2006-11-10 22:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like she wants her cake and to eat it too. shes trying to control the relationship by telling you you cant have friends but she can and thats not right some rules need to be set in all reality neither one of youll should be on the phone with each others exs that disrespect to one another. but she will do what you allowe her to do you have to tell her how you feel if she cant respect that then you do not need her reguardless of what the purpose is im a woman i know my ex tryed that that why were not together any more we were in the same place
2006-11-10 22:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and tell her how you feel and tell her from your heart...if she gets pissed and starts yelling stop the conversation by saying "i see your upset right now lets talk about this in alittle bit when u cool down" then walk away....
communication is the #1 killer of a relationship and u need to open up that avenue if the relationship is to work.....
if the 2 of u argue the problem wont get work out and it may get worse
2006-11-10 22:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by truckindad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it, and it sounds that if you have to worry about her cheating on you with an ex then you don't really trust the relationship your in, maybe you should think about that too... i would try and ask her about her ex without accusing her of anything, you might find out that they are really good friends, if thats the case you should try and get to know him because if they were close and even though SHE CHOSE YOU they have survived a breakup, and will probably be friends for a long time... getting to know him will strengthen your relationship and let her know your really in this
2006-11-10 22:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by casey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u see her on the fone with her ex bf,you take out your cell and dial someone's number and yak on the phone in front of her.trust me,she'll get insecure thinking you are on the phone with another girl...provided you show her how you're having a good conversation on the phone(smile while you're on the phone).that way,she will put hung up faster and demand to know who you're on the phone with.lay your rules then, she talk to her ex...you talk to yours.
2006-11-10 22:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by pristine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well totally put trust in her that is seriously a big thing in a relationship.If you don't have trust in her and if she dosn't trust you it causes a huge mess trust me I have been there before.Like ask her why she talks to her and tell her how you feel about her talking to him,but when you talk to her try to stay calm as possible.Then ask her why she gets mad at you when you talk to girls on the phone.To me it seems like you don't have trust in the relationship.
2006-11-10 22:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by nsm_christian_chic_21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on the phone...is kinda wrong i think...i mean if she talks to him when she sees him that's different but they shouldnt b really calling each other...cuz i think once u've been with someone its easy to go back. i would remind her of how she feels when u do something liek that... be like ''babe ya know how u get mad at me wen i talk to girls on the phone...it really bothers be how u talk to ur ex bf...it makes me think im going to lose u'' or something to that affect
2006-11-10 22:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by mommy911 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so what... i still talk to my ex, yet we're just friends. I still like him, but when i get another bf, i think i'll be over him. girls can be friends with guys! and vice versa. tell her you don't think it's fair for her to be angry when you talk to your old girl friends. or maybe she has a reason to worry. pehaps you've cheated on her before?
2006-11-10 22:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by Renee Gibson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋