my mom is so impossible!?

Question

my mom gets pissed from everything! rite now, she called "alex" then half a second later she screams "ALEX!" so i went to her and she says " why didn't you answerme the first time?!" i said " you yelled my name twice at the same time" she says "SHUT UP! U DON'T SAY WHAT I DID AND DIDN'T DO! NOW PUT THIS IN THE FREEZER!" so i went to put the freezer pack in the freezer and I accidently dropped it on the sink full of dirty water. i saw her behind me and said " look wut u did! can u do anything right? no wonder you don't have any friends!" i don't want to tell the rest, so what should i do? i try to ignore her, but i can't.

my mom doesn't have her period anymore

we spend ALOT of time together

I am still in school (9th)

just to answer some of your questions

TO TAURAS

1.my mom left the freezer pack out cause of her leg

2.my brother was cleang the dishes, but he left to go party with his friends and he didn't clean it out

3. the reason i didn't answer her immediatly was because I was at the other side of the house and I'm deaf in one ear.

Answer 1

sit down and talk with her, be like mom i just want u to listen to me and please dont say anything until im done. tell her how incredible sad it makes you, tell her you want to have a good mother-daughter relationship (suck up a lil hehe) and go from there. good luck hun, it'll get better--- i think all girls go through taht with their mom

Answer 2

Your mom may have a lot of stress on her mind right now, so that is why she acts that way. Otherwise, I think she may be verbally abusing you, especially the comment about you not having any friends. You should somehow secretly videotape her or write down everything she says. Then, show all that to someone else like your father or a relative. Everyone has different view points. Before doing anything, make sure you're not taking her words differently than what she is saying. After that, I suggest showing the videotape or the written words to your mom. Tell her how you are feeling, as well, when she is in a more calm mood. Please make sure this doesn't turn into a problem of more abuse. I know that peoblem can occur sometimes. I'm sorry if I insulted you or your mom, maybe she was just in a bad mood that time and she just took it out on you. Good luck.

Answer 3

A couple of questions back at you. Who left the freezer pack lying around instead of putting it back in the freezer after using it.?

Who left the sink full of dirty water.

Why didn't you answer her the first time she called you. Is that a habit with you. It only takes 1/3 second to say "yes" when your mom calls you.

You said your mother left the freezer pack out because of her leg? So she called you from the other end of the house to put it back in the freezer. Where is your freezer. Mine is in the kitchen.

Also I am deaf in one ear but if someone calls me twice and I hear them both times my deaf ear does not prevent me from answering the first call.

I think your mother was upset because your brother left the sink full of dirty water and you were available so she vented on you.

Answer 4

wow I'm really sorry that she is like that. Sounds like she has some anger built up. It probably isn't you that shes angry with, but you are the one she takes it out on. I've known lots of people like that. My mom and I were best friends. I talked to her everyday. She passed away 7 years ago, and I still miss her terribly. Maybe you could try and talk to her when shes in a good mood and tell her that you understand and you want to be her friend not her sounding board. Make sure you tell her that you love her and maybe over time you can get along. I really hope things get better for you. I wish every day that my mom was still here! Best of Luck

Answer 5

Alex, run don't walk to the nearest "family counsellor", your mother has issues. Being a mother myself, I can tell you I would never speak that way to my children, at any age. She sounds like she is "stressed out" - if you know why, try and talk to her in one of her calmer moments, if not, at least seek some help from your school. You can't continue to live like that Alex, it will wear on you and one day you will make a decision, that could change the course of your life forever. Try and get some help for your mother, and you. Good Luck (i gather you live only with your mom,if so, can your dad help?)

Answer 6

A) How old are you?
B) Don't take any of what she says too personally, we all have bad days, and we all suffer from stress. Sounds like she is having a bad day..and so are you.
I wish that becoming a parent automatically made you perfect person, but, darlin it don't.
Have you ever tried talking to her about how you feel when she says stuff like this to you?
Please consider talking to another adult about this situation if you can't talk to your mom. How bout a Priest/Rabi or school councilor?
Hugs, and good luck.

Answer 7

Ignoring your mother won't solve anything. You and her need to sit down and talk about your problems. Maybe even see a therapist if you can't talk together without yelling.
She is saying very mean things to you. Telling you that "no wonder you don't have any friends?!" That's a form of verbal abuse. I would talk to my school counselor about that. If your mother is under stress, maybe SHE needs to talk to someone, too. But, I hope it works out for you. Good luck.

Answer 8

Try waking up earier one day, set the table with breakfast for her with stuffs she like to eat. Keep the table neat. After she ate, you wash the dishes. Ask her take a break. You will be surprised how she may change towards you.

Answer 9

she's a person just like you with emotions galore, but sometimes even moms blow off, but she should apologize. don't expect her to if you yell back though. tell her you want to be treated nicely, and she should walk away until she calms down and then tell you what she would like you to do. moms and kids always have a bad moment some time but learning to control the outbursts helps.

Answer 10

maybe your mom has a lot of burdens that's why she's tensed resulting to yelling at you. Try to stretch your patience and show her that you care. You don't have to be strangers under one roof. You're family; help build it, start from yourself. It won't take overnight, it takes years and years, but it's worth your try. :o)