I'm going through a divorce. I do not love my soon to be exwife. I havent for years. Now my friends tell me I should just be alone for awhile. I want a relationship. I want love and be loved. I want intimacy in many ways: emotionally, intelectually, spiritually, and yes physically. How can being alone meet those needs? The implication is that I shouldnt need those things but I do. Should I be alone just for the sake of being alone just to see what it's like? I have tended to jump from relationship to relationship, but this marriage lasted 8 years and I've felt alone for most of those so I'm ready NOW for a new relationship. Does anyone understand this "you should be alone" thing?
2006-11-10 13:46:51 · 8 answers · asked by Mark B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When was the last time that you were not in a relationship? When it is suggested that you need time alone it is to explore what you really want in a future relationship. Giving yourself time gives you a chance to reflect on what went wrong with your marriage and helps prevent you from making another bad choice. When we are extremely needy we are not as particular about jumping into another relationship even if it may not be healthy. Giving yourself time allows you to reflect on what it is that you need to make yourself happy. Some people feel that the only way they can achieve personal happiness is through the love of another. You need to find self love first in order to properly love another. When we focus on being a couple we ignore what we need to develop a healthy self image. Given the fact you claim that you didn't love your wife you still need time to grieve the end of the relationship and recognize the sadness that you must feel at the dreams that were unfufilled and the loss of what "could have been" Good luck and give yourself the gift of time I think you truly deserve that. God bless.
2006-11-10 13:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You should meet another woman. Its never good to be alone. If you are in a relationship, then you will feel you are an important person because their is someone for you out there.
Don't listen to friends, decide for yourself
2006-11-10 21:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are looking the real deal !!! This means you will not be in a hurry just to make up for lost time. You will be building something for the rest of your life. Besides you have to under go DETOX from you ex. In this way you can start clean a new relationship.
2006-11-10 21:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by Eddie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can determine whether or not you should be alone. When you're alone, the pain is no doubt greater than it would be when you're with someone. I don't see why you shouldn't be with someone, if only to talk. Take things slow and just be friends for a while.
2006-11-10 23:15:02 · answer #4 · answered by postcardtrader 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when someone says that you should be a lone for a while it means that you should take the time to get to know your self all over again, have fun, go out with your friends or what ever. basically figuring out what exactly you want in a woman so that if you ever decide to get married again you will be with the right one that time.
2006-11-10 21:53:07 · answer #5 · answered by thinkofmealwayslver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be sure that you are really ready for another relationship and not just that you don't want to be alone.
2006-11-10 21:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by Daisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No point in being alone in my opinion. Another relationship may help smooth your transition.
2006-11-10 21:50:44 · answer #7 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have sex appel
2006-11-10 21:55:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋