My sister died about 9 yrs ago. before she passed, she talked of having children (having a little boy first), buying a house and getting married. She achieved 1 of those goals. Getting married. She was married for 6 months before dying due to an epileptic seizure and passing while in her sleep. I have done all that she wanted to do, including contributing to charities in hopes of one day, being able to find the exact cause and treating the disease. I would like to know what you think would be an honorable way to keep someone's memory alive.
2006-11-10 13:41:02 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I should have said disease/illness
2006-11-10 13:42:55 · update #1
Wow...I am so sorry to hear that. Losing a loved one is very tough...especially ones that are taken from us so young..not only having to deal with her death but having her hopes and dreams die too....it's just heart breaking..My deepest sympathy for you and your family.
I really like the idea that someone mentioned above.....naming your child after your sister...whether it be a middle or first name...I think that would be a wonderful way to honor your sister.
Also KEEP doing work with charities that support Epilepsy..I think that's awesome. Not only would you keep her memory alive by doing that...but your words or stories about your sister may bring great comfort to someone in a similar situation.
2006-11-11 02:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by kissmybum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep her spirit alive for others.
My daughter was born a year after my sister died and she has my sister's name as her middle name. I talk about her since my kids will never get to meet her. But they feel that they have by the stories I have told.
Donating and working with the charities is a great way to honour her.
I've heard that you can name a star after someone. It is an honourary name, not an official one but I thought it was a beautiful idea.
2006-11-10 15:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my friend's brother passed in a car accident, and she named her first son after him, and her second son, she named him her brother's middle name. I thought that was the best way to keep a memory alive. It's like keeping the cirlce of life going. If you have children, that could be a wonderful way.
Also, keep a good picture in a nice frame on the wall. Maybe light a candle every Sunday?
2006-11-10 13:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by blondie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in dealing with grief it is often helpful to perform some type of ritual (maybe it is annually on their birthdate or anniversary.) some people may write a letter/draw a picture attach it to a balloon and watch it float into the clouds. other people may light a candle, or create a scrapbook or time capsule, other people may cook their loved ones favorite meal, or some people may create something artistic out in nature that is biodegradable, and watch it return back to the earth over time... the important thing is just to find something that makes sense for you and your family.
2006-11-10 16:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alan - Besides visiting her gravesite often as you can - there is one supreme way to honor her memory & keep it alive in your consciousness - and that is to humbly pray for her soul-
Go to your church or shul & humbly, kneel down & literally beseech God to forgive her faults & sins & to grant her the bliss of heaven in His Presence. This shows you are the real caring brother - who instead of the external superficial things, carried on in her memory, do the IMPORTANT things which are ETERNAL & determine what her reward or punishment is for all eternity. God is merciful & good & will listen to your entreaties on her behalf. There are very few alive today who are so perfect and holy that they merit total heavenly bliss immediately. I know that is what I would want people to do on my behalf when I pass. NOTHING IS AS IMPORTANT. Those merely worldly gestures done with her in mind, as nice as they seem to be - are not helping her to reach a high reward & bliss in heaven.
Therefore, Alan - do the right & honorable thing and pray in the shul or church on her behalf, for her memory - that God will pity her and forgive all her sins & raise her higher in His afterlife.
do this and your sister will be in ecstasy that you cared to help her now that others have forgotten her soul.. she is transferred to another world or dimension called the afterlife - and she needs prayers. Besides, God also greatly rewards those who pray for the deceased sincerely to help them. these acts of spiritual mercy are extremely pleasing to the Lord God Almighty.
think about this - Alan - and do it for her sake. Even if you have never been devout or religious before - God will not reject your prayers if you have faith in His Holy Name & believe in Him totally. This is in addition to having the rabbi or priest offer the memorial prayers for the dead.
How much I hope that my words penetrate into your mind and elicit a heartfelt response from you. That would make me happy - that in some way - I helped your sister's eternal salvation.
with every good wish - Blackbird
2006-11-10 14:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by blackbird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most obvious way is by visiting her gravesite, but if you're unwilling to for personal reasons, then I'll suggest you these alternatives, join up with local health groups/deceased relative comforting groups, etc. Do what occurs to you in your concsient brain's thoughts, but rationally, don't do anything negative.
Hopefully you and your relatives can get through this ordeal.
2006-11-10 13:47:14 · answer #6 · answered by andy14darock 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could plant something, a red bud tree in his memory! I like your idea of a scholarship too:-) Sorry for your lose.
2016-05-22 04:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do what your doing and talk about her...that keeps her memory alive.....
2006-11-10 14:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by ariermagee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by always loving them
2006-11-10 14:58:25 · answer #9 · answered by sindi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋