My nineteen year old sister wrecked a car today and is in a lot of trouble for not having insurance. Someone told her that if she gets insurance on another car and brings it to court with her when she goes that the judge may not revoke her license, but will only give her a fine. She can't afford to buy a car. I'm getting a car in January, and my husband has a car of his own. My mom is very ill and upset about my sister being in so much trouble, and my OTHER sister mentioned to me that maybe I could sign my van over to my sister so she can get it insured and share my husband's car with him until January. I don't want to do this. I feel like my sister needs to learn from her mistakes just like I had to do and if I put my neck out to help her, I'll wind up with a broken neck and a still immature sister? Am I wrong for thinking this? Would I be a better sister and daughter to give up my van??
2006-11-10 13:38:41 · 8 answers · asked by Jennifer F 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are not wrong. Go with your gut instincts. Your family isnt doing her any favors.
2006-11-10 13:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I dont know where they got the idea about buying a new car and doing that, but anyways DONT sign your van over to you sister. I hate to be like that but if you do you are putting yourself out there and will wind up getting into a mess of trouble! Why was your sister driving with no insurance anyhow? If you give in to her you won't be teaching her a lesson, it really sounds likeshe has a lot to learn, and needs to grow up, maybe not having her license will make her realize her mistakes!!! I am 21 and have a lot of heart ache and troubles, but I too have had to learn from my mistakes and move on. If you do decide to do this for your sister, which is totally up to you, I wouldn't do it though, be prepared for the consequences. I pray you make the right decision and everything works out...
2006-11-10 21:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by alleybug_2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No-keep your van. You're not doing her any favors helping her out. She needs to learn from her mistakes and take some responsibilities for what she has done. And she needs to grow up. Maybe walking for a few months will teach her a lesson or too. But you'll be a better sister and daughter by NOT giving in.
If you let her have your van, she will wind up messing that up, too. My sister did the SAME THING to my mother...my mom had a car...my mom let her drive it...she got into an accident and totaled it. My mom has gotten a new car since and my sister is driving that one now...my mother hasn't learned from it apparently. But, you have a say in this, so do what your gut instinct tells you!!
2006-11-10 22:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...keep your van. You're absolutely right in feeling that if you help her out, she'll never learn. It's something she has to learn to deal with. Get her a bus schedule instead. You don't owe her anything. You can offer her rides...and above all else DO NOT CO-SIGN on ANYTHING for her cause you'll get screwed in the end if she's not growing up and learning how to be an adult. Its hard, I know but it's better to come off as the bitchy sister than let her walk all over you and screw your life along with hers. Let her know you love her and care about her but she needs to have respect for you and your family too. Offer to help out but in other ways. She'll be pissed but eventually will get over it.
2006-11-10 21:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be totally honest, you would be a better daughter and sister if you took care of yourself first. My ex-brother-in-law was irresponsible. My ex-husband sold him a car and let him use the license plates to get it home. Two months later, my ex ended up in jail because of a warrant.
He parked the car in the street, the plates expired, the car was tickted and he was free and clear. It ended up costing my ex a whole bunch of money and time off of work.
If she does not face the consequences now, she will never want to ever face them. Good Luck!!!
2006-11-10 21:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by mother of 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She need to learn the value of having her own transportation ...... she can walk or ride a bus...... Things that are given, even with the best of intentions, can be the wrong thing at the wrong time.
let her grow a bit .... she needs to dig her self outta the holw she dug. Let her accept the responsibility for her actions ..... later you and the other sisted can kick in a get her a used scooter ...... but let her twist in the wind a' while.
Tough Love .... try it.
Good Luck
2006-11-10 21:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All she needs to do is get an SR22 filed before her Court date. Having Insurance then will get it dropped. Who owned the car? they will have to do the same. She needs Motorist insurance not car insurance you can insure yourself as a vehicle driver.
2006-11-10 21:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by knight_in_burntarmor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are right . she needs to learn from her mistakes and your family is not helping her. It is called coddling and my ex-husband's mother did it to all of her kids and they all live with her and they are all over 40 yrs old . They are all spoiled selfish adults and have all been divorced. So yeah your family needs to quit babying her and let her grow up. good luck and god bless and happy thanksgiving.
2006-11-10 21:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋