My boyfriend and I have been together now for 3 years. He is 26 and I am 20. I moved in with him 2 years ago. We had a long distance relationship for about a year and then I moved in with him. I moved away from all my family and friends to be with him. He lived right near his family. I havnt seen anyone in my family for almost a year and I didnt get to spend the holidays with them last year because he didnt want to drive up there. I dont have a car right now so I have to rely on him for his car. I asked him if we could go up there and spend a few days with my family before xmas who live 2 1/2 hours away. He flipped out and said that he wasnt going to put any miles on his car just so I could see them for a few days. When I said I got upset he said oh well stop talking about it cause its not going to happen. I dont get it normaly he treats me very well. We spend almost every day with his family! Do I have a right to be upset or do I just have to deal with it becuase its not my car?
2006-11-10 13:35:08 · 14 answers · asked by angel l 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its not just my parents I want to see its my whole family
2006-11-10 13:40:31 · update #1
Yes you have the right to become upset. You have just as much responsibility to your family as he dose his.
2006-11-10 13:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by flesh_of_daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you have every right to be upset. It seems that you have already been isolated from your family for far too long as is, while he gets to enjoys his own on a daily basis. His actions scream silently of a controlling personality that is reluctant to let you out of his sight for even the most innocent of reasons, like visiting your home. I can't help but wonder what his family thinks about the obvious disconnection that you now have been forced to suffer with your own family. Surely, they could talk some sense into him if you cannot. Either way, too often, men come and go in our lives, but your blood kin are there forever. I'm afraid that if you let him dominate and control you now, then things will progressively get worse in the long run, possibly even turning violent. If you want to visit your family and he refuses to allow you the use of the car, buy a greyhound bus ticket and go anyway, and make arrangement for a member of your family to pick you up at the bus terminal when you arrive. Enjoy your visit and prove a point to your boyfriend at the same time. You are a strong, independent woman who not only deserves to have her wishes respected and granted, but demands them to be as well. Good Luck.
2006-11-10 21:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by Decadent Musings06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats ridiculous!! of course you have a right to be upset, what an a$$!! seriously you have every right to see your family and why does he freakin have a car if he doesn't want to put miles on it. I would call home and ask if someone in your family would come get you. i realize it would be a long drive, but sometimes you just need home.
2006-11-10 21:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by HC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is so not responsible and thoughtful. 2 1/2 drive is just a shorthaul, move away from him, dump him
2006-11-10 21:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by Bradley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not an expert, but sounds like a control thing on his part. he has isolated you from your family. i don't think this is a good thing. you are going to have to decide ,do you want to live like that the rest of your life. if not call your family and have them move you back home.
2006-11-10 21:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by Brenda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that just shows how much he cares about you. when i was with my ex and she had to move back home i'd still visit her twice a week. put about 200 miles on my car a week but u can't put a price on a relationship.
2006-11-10 21:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cared anything about you he would not think twice about taking you to see your fam. My advice would be to get on your feet get YOUR OWN car and probably your own place too. People in general seem to treat you diferently when they know you need them.
2006-11-10 21:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by ztns9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like it is a control issue with you being in contact with your parents he is in control of your life and 2and a half hours is not that far have them come get you and stay for a few days if he has a afit about that then he really doesnt care for you
2006-11-10 21:42:29 · answer #8 · answered by tugboat21601 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you have the right to be upset and yes you have to deal with it because it is his car. Question is, do you really want to stay with this jerk?
2006-11-10 21:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by rav42u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you do have the right to be upset.
2006-11-10 21:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋