I am a nanny for 2 kids and sometimes the parents stay home which can be very stressful for me cos they tend to change my routine. i have not spoken to them about it cos i do know how to approach the topic without causing hard feelings.. sometimes when i have to put the kids down for a nap they insist that i should let them stay up.. i personally think a nap is needed esp when the kids are cranky and won't stop crying. any help on the matter would be highly appreciated.
2006-11-10 13:26:33 · 6 answers · asked by tamrastic 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Try sitting down with the parents when the kids are not around and discussing with them your concerns. When they are home, the disruption to your routine could be sending mixed messages to the children. If they were parenting and one parent told a child they could not have ice cream and the other said they could, they would upset with one another. By hiring you to be the nanny, they have essentially solicited your help as a third parent. If they are not going to give you the same respect in parenting their children, that they would give one another, I would suggest looking for another family to work for.
2006-11-10 13:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by Meesh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had troubles similar to yours when I was a nanny. I finally told them that if they trusted me enough to leave them with me during the day, that they needed to trust me when they are home as well. I explained that a routine was healthy, and that it helped their evening plans when the kids followed the routine during the day, naps kept them from being tired, feedings and play times were less stressful for us all, and so on. They agreed with me and things went smoothly after that, I wish I hadn't waited so long to talk to them
2006-11-10 13:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by Playful_Pandora 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I donno thats hard. I babysat while the dad worked from home in the bacement. It sucked when he was there cause you cant do what you want with the kids or dicipline them the way you want. If it bothers you that much maybe you should find a new job. Parents are very resentment if you say anything about there kids to them and may take ofence that you dont like when they tell you not to put the kids down for a nap! Good luck with that............
2006-11-10 13:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion -- you're the nanny, not the mom. It's wonderful to hear that you have such a good connection with the kids (and know what's wrong when they're acting up).
Sit down with the parents and explain that the kids are happy with their naps at [insert time] and when they don't get their sleep, they become cranky.
2006-11-10 13:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jocelyn 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If u're having a hard time going to them abt it, write them a letter and express ur feelings. Make sure they understand that u're not tryin to be rude or anything like that. They should understand that u're the nanny and u're only doing ur job.
2006-11-10 13:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by Monai 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LET THEM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT THAT IF NOT YOU ARE GOING TO NEED TO FIND ANOTHER NANNY POSITION
2006-11-10 13:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by juanita2_2000 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋