My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 months he said he was stuck and wanted a break and that when he come back not if he come back but when that he wanted me to be waiting that he needed a month at the most to figure out what made us want each other so bad what is he thinking should i expect him to come back and should I wait please help !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-10 13:12:10 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes, guys just need a break. My b/f had a similar experience- we have a long distance relationship right now, he graduated college last year, and I still have a year and a half. He is up in Northern VA, and I'm down about 3-1/2 hours away. He told me that he wanted a break, and a few weeks later, we talked and everything was fine. I think its just like they feel that they need their personal time sometimes.
2006-11-10 13:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by cnuswte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I need space", "I want to take a break" etc are all ways of saying, I don't know what I want. I'm afraid to tell you that you should begin healing. If, after 6 months together a man doesn't know he is at the very least "falling" in love with you, then something is wrong in the relationship. Love hurts when only ones in love, I'm right there right now with you so I know. If you really love him, give him the space, but start to see your life with out him. During your break you need to evaluate why he would want one. If he does comeback you will want to begin a process of connecting with him. Believe it or not, men do want an emotional and intimate connection with their partner. Men will more likely be about the physical aspects of the relationship, face it, heck embrace it, but we do want "intimacy" as well. If your not providing that for him, the physical will not be enough in the long term to sustain the relationship. Often it is the focus and if it is, you need to refocus if you want this to work. Good luck.
2006-11-10 21:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mark B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that if a relationship is going to work, you need to stay together. You need to work things out, talk about what is going on and then if there seems to be no resolve, then the relationship is over. Taking a break will only add extra distance between you. If he needs a break, he won't come back and you shouldn't take him back. Usually a "break" means he wants to sleep around or see other women. You don't need that! Don't leave the decision up to him. You're both in this. Do what feels right to you.
2006-11-10 21:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey!!!! I hate to tell you, but if he needs a break after 6 months then he really is not the one..needing a break after only being together for a short time is silly....It sounds like to me that you just not need to wait. Why should you wait while he is making up his mind..True love comes in strange ways, but not in sitting around waiting for them to come back...So my advice don't wait for him if he wants you that bad he will not leave at all....
2006-11-10 21:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by girlio33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait? For him to go off for a month to decide why he wants you so much? Doll, that isn't even logical reasoning. If he wants you ~that~ much, he would never want to be apart from you to begin with. He would accept his feelings for you and embrace them whole-heartedly instead of trying to slip off for a month. I smell a skunk. If he is bound and determined to take a break, then let him, but make it clear that you are not going to sit idley by while he goes off and does his own thing. Tell him a break is fine, if that is what he needs, but in the meantime you are going to go out whenever and with whomever you choose instead of sitting home waiting for his ~possible~ return. Will you be there and waiting when and if he ventures back your way? Only if someone more respectful of your feelings doesn't come along and knock him out of the saddle first. Good luck.
2006-11-10 21:24:18 · answer #5 · answered by Decadent Musings06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something wrong in paradise. Can't he tell what he is feeling or does he need time to think of a new plot. He is telling you that he believes he made a mistake and you are not the one, but he is afraid to say so.
2006-11-10 21:17:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is looking for a little extra loving. Don't wait for him to decide if youre good enough for him. He already knows what he wants.
2006-11-10 21:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by mellijenk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you letting him make all the decisions in this relationship? so basically he wants you to sit around a wait for him while he's out doing whatever he wants to and not thinking about your feelings. i wouldn't wait around. if he wants you back and you still happen to be single, then so be it. he can't blame you for something that he wanted in the first place.
2006-11-10 21:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mimi, girl what is your problem anytime a man tells you he wants to take a break what he's really saying is i'm cheating but I want you to wait for me just in case it don't work out.
mimi, don't be a fool for no-one you should think more highly of yourself. you are a beautiful person always remember that.
2006-11-10 21:39:37 · answer #9 · answered by MISTY KISER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In other words, he has met some hot babe he wants to boink. If you are broken up, then he is guilt free. He knows you are a great person, so he wants you to "wait"..........
Let him go, but you need to move on, he has.
Go out with your friends. Go out on dates.
2006-11-10 21:23:00 · answer #10 · answered by earinfection 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋