How can I get over someone who I like so much but know doesn't want me that way back? We talk alot and everytime we do it hurts to think nothing is ever going to happen. I want something long-term, he seems to only want sex. What can I do?
2006-11-10 13:03:30 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just forget. Shut your mind off to them and get on with life.
2006-11-10 13:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
You need an intelligent guy with a brain who understands the meaning of a longterm relationship. A sex only relationship will not last too long. Join a group where the members have the same interests as you have .. Join a couple of groups if necessary. You'll meet new friends and may well meet a special friend. I hope it all works out for you.
2006-11-10 15:23:14 · answer #2 · answered by Christopher P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is it will be hard to stop thinking about that person, especially if you talk to them on a daily basis. As for me I had a crush on a guy who barely knew I existed, and he ended up getting another girlfriend. So, now I hardly notice him by packing my day with things I enjoy doing, that don't invovle him. Yeah, there are times when I look back and wonder 'what if?' but the truth is that maybe this guy is not the one for me, and this could be the same situation for you. So meet new people, trust me there are other guys out there, and if not just wait, after all is love worth waiting for?
2006-11-10 13:15:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica Monique! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Adrian theres an old saying why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. Stop having sex with him. If he still talks to you then be a friend for one year and don't give into sex with him. If he can't take it then you made the right choice.Save it for someone who is special.That is a private intimate part of your life and you shouldn't be in it alone.
2006-11-10 13:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by I don't get it 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a matter of self respect. You have to love your self before you can love another. If you are having sex with this man and you know he does not love you, then you need to take a hard look at your self. You are worth being loved! You are worth having a relationship based on trust, and love. I believe that love, while a very powerful emotion, is less about feeling than it is about a determined series of actions directed towards the one you love. Seeing a man and "wanting" him is lust. Seeing a man and wanting to meet his every need ( were not talking sex her though that certainly is one of his needs ) emotional, spiritual, intellectual and yes even sexual. But if the object of your desire does not desire to be your everything, then you must love your self enough to move on. The man who does love you that much is out there and you can't find him if your mixed up with a guy who is only about the sex. Good luck!
2006-11-10 13:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by Mark B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two answers. You can keep trying until you succeed. However this option may not yield the result you want if that someone does not love you.
The other answer is to forget about this special someone and move on. Initially this option will hurt but for a short time. I am confident someone special out there is also looking for you.
Good luck.
2006-11-10 13:12:48 · answer #6 · answered by George A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is a great healer. Personally I would tell him that the reason you can't have sex is because you have feelings for him. That this would make you want him more. At least this way he knows your attracted to him but your not letting him use you for sex. Also that way if he wants the sex that badly he'll have to give you something in return. Hopefully commitment. I really hope it works out for you. Good luck ;-)
2006-11-10 13:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by born2survive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, No sex. Next you need to try and distance yourself from him. I mean don't completely shut him out of your life but do things that keep you busy and keep your mind off of him. Hang out with friends, try and find so extra activities, etc. If you keep busy, eventually things will become alot easier. Im not saying by any means to give up but if you two were meant to be together than things will work out in the end. Good Luck!
2006-11-10 13:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I say you first need to cut off communication with this person, it may not last forever but for now, and for a while it will be best. I know it may sound cheesy but I have had my heart broken plenty of times and these are the things that have worked for me. You need to treat a broken heart as if it were a broken bone, you must first baby it (so listen to all those sappy songs that remind you of him, look at photos, cry, etc...), then you must build it up to be strong again, read books, exercise, journal, what ever will help clear your mind but will also allow you to think about it from a different point of view.
2006-11-10 13:24:55 · answer #9 · answered by jewles 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You wrote: "How can I get over someone who I like so much but know doesn't want me that way back?"
To say, "it takes time to heal" is a truism but there you have it, no better answer than "You must hang on till you get to firm ground," exists. You must cling to life until you find that clinging is natural.
If he only wants sex, and you feel that you need more than he can give you, why should you give away what is so precious to you? Or if it isn't, why do you like him? You have to determine what it is that you want. To put it simply, who do you want, and what does he want?
Not so simple, is it?
2006-11-10 13:17:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is cut all ties with this person, get some self confidence and realise you deserve better, dont continue to sleep wth him and move on with your life. The person you are meant to be with is out there somewhere, someone who will respect you as a person and not just use you for sex, your worth more than that. Be happy
2006-11-10 13:18:47 · answer #11 · answered by jaebird 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋