He has ADHD and I really need some help? I dont know what to do. Medicine half the time dont work. He is so bad at times I feel like going crazy sometimes. He loves to aggrovate any one that gets in his way. I have been tryin to find A support group here that is local IN jacksonville, Fl but I cant find one. Any advice would help. Thanks
2006-11-10 12:54:16 · 15 answers · asked by nkk329951701 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well, there is a book called "The Explosive Child" that has helped tons of people in our situation. Read the reviews on the Amazon site. It's the best $10 you will ever spend, trust me.
After you read the book, realize hitting never works.
Also check into Daytrana, the new ADHD patch. Less medicine, does more and works well with lots of kids. Fast-acting and long-lasting and nothing to swallow.
2006-11-10 13:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sir J 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If his medicine doesn't work "half the time," then he's either not on the right dosage, not on the right medicine for HIM, or he's not really ADHD. ADHD medicine doesn't work on kids who aren't really ADHD. You both need to revisit the doctor to get that taken care of.
As for disciplining, I read an interesting book last year in my school library (I am a teacher) about ways to handle a child with ADHD. One of the best things I learned was the type of language to use with children who have ADHD. I have applied this language in my classroom, and not just with students who have ADHD. It works. :)
The basic idea is that you have to use direct language with the child. Never use sarcasm- they don't get it (with regards to discipline). Don't ask questions that you think will give you the right answer (Do you think that was a good idea, Jimmy?). If he knew the answer to the question, he wouldn't have done the bad behavior in the first place.
Check out parenting and teaching books on ADHD from your local library. You will find some really helpful information on how to deal with and PREVENT bad behavior with your son- discipline will become a thing used less frequently because prevention will soon be your method of choice. Good luck!
2006-11-11 03:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
http://www.focalinxr.com/info/answers/adhd_resources.jsp?creative=100002&site=100005&source=01030&campaign=FCL-AD-0145-A is a great resource for parents of ADHD.
For your support group:
Duval County
Meetings are held the first Tuesday of the month at the Ronald McDonald House
824 Children's Way,
Jacksonville,FL 32207
Telephone: 726-5000 ext. 499 for information
Web site: www.chadd.org or e-mail martyclk@aol.com
Kids with ADHD need behavioral activities and medicine to minimize their disorder. Remember, let him burst - but in a creative way, throw pillows, color what he wants to convey. If he notices that he is having trouble paying attention, tell him to tap his fingers or swing his feet. His body sometimes needs to be in motion to function.
As for punishments, always first start off with a warning; what he is doing, why is it wrong and how he can fix it.
At the next offence, give him a time out. Usually the age would be a good # of minutes. Let the time out be somewhere where he can draw, write down his emotions or sitting outside on the swing set, a walk around the block, etc for him to settle down.
2006-11-10 22:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by PeppermintandPopcorn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask the local police department for a list of support groups. Find one for ADHD. And see if there is any agencies locally that give help for parents with children with ADHD. We found help in West Palm Beach. Jacksonville is also big, you should find help there too.
2006-11-10 13:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
discipline like you would any of your other kids. You HAVE to be consistent, too. I would take him completely off the meds, and limit his sugar intake to almost none. I mean, like maybe a couple times a week he can have something small. You will notice a huge difference even if that is all you do. Cut out sodas, candy, fruit snacks, puddings, etc... and replace with 100% juice, crackers, real fruit, carrot sticks and dip, celery and peanut butter, etc... Save the sugary stuff as an occasional "treat" when he has had a good week. It takes alot of patience, but that's just a part of parenting. And I totally agree with the answer Apak gave. Something to really think about. Best of luck!!
2006-11-10 15:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by chickmomma5 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It must be very hard. If I were you I would find some therapist for you to talk to and gain some peace of mind yourself. You can read in your words how difficult this is for you. Besides giving yourself time to vent and give yourself a chance to be happy a professional should have some very good ideas on how to handle him. I would believe more then any of us can, and I am sure everybody feels for your plight. One silver lining all though not a great one for today, in time he should mature, even boys who are not dealing with ADHD seem to mellow out as they get older. Good luck
2006-11-10 13:06:51 · answer #6 · answered by messtograves 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is almost 7 and was diagnosed with ADHD on the first of this month. I have done a lot of reading on it. I find that taking away privileges, such as TV and Internet, help a lot. she also gets rewarded when she spends a certain amount of time without getting into serious trouble, like McDonald's or a new toy. Its very hard, and every child is different. If he is not responding to his medicine, then it might need to be changed, or the dosage upped. It might be good to talk to your doctor.
2006-11-10 15:35:33 · answer #7 · answered by lynno 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
"Discipline him like any other kid." How many have said this and do they really have experience with it?
I am still trying to find ways to discipline my son. What worked for my daughter does not work for him. I can take away every toy and he will be happy with something else. His teacher told me that she moves him to the back of the class because he will not sit still and is constantly talking. This is a form of punishment for most kids, but not for my son. He just tries to talk to the teacher. When he realizes that she is not listening, he talks to himself. Homework time is trying because we will be working on a problem and then, all of sudden, he starts talking about something not even related and I have to get him focused on what we are doing, again.
I would say it is trial and error. When you find something that works, stick with it. Spanking a child with ADHD very rarely helps. Good luck and remember that you are definitely not alone!
2006-11-10 17:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by mcgrawm7 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I look after a 8 year old boy who is ADHD. I have a list of rules for him and punish him for breaking them and reward him for compliance. He is on Ritalin and this helps him learn at school. If he is having a "melt down" I usually wait until he settles down before I deal with his behaviour. I also try to avoid power struggles with him and will give him adequate warnings by counting to three before he gets punished.
2006-11-10 14:09:02 · answer #9 · answered by cabincatred 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My grand son has ADHD, and I took him to his medical doctor and we worked as a team. My job was to record the way he behave, and I was given a list of foods that he shouldn't have, as well as medication. After about three months gooing to the doctor, he recommend counseling, which help tremendously.
2006-11-10 13:18:16 · answer #10 · answered by Iamamom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋