she also screams at everyone when we put her in time out or a cornner .
2006-11-10 12:51:53 · 8 answers · asked by April E 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It's called seperation anxiety. You just have to do what you can, but don't give in so easy. I would advise talking to her doctor about it. You could also google it (Seperation anxiety) and see what kind of treatments there are. All I did was just force them to be without me (when they started school)
2006-11-10 12:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by newcovenant0 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disciplining a 3-year old requires a lot.....of......discipline :)
If you put her in time out and she screams, leave her there. Teach her that you are in charge of her, not the other way around!
Start by having her looked after by a babysitter for an hour or two (she'll scream the whole time, get used to it!), and slowly build up until you can leave for an entire day. She will likely have a tantrum every single time you leave her, but will slowly learn to get over this on her own.
No one likes to feel like a "bad" parent, but you need to realize that your toddler's behaviour is directly related to the things that you have PERMITTED her to get away with. It will take time to break this cycle of spoiling your child and not feeling guilty for not giving her what she wants. Be persistent.
2006-11-10 21:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for your clingey child- my advice (and it worked wonderfully for me) go for a visit at a family members house. after being there for a bit of time say "ok mommy is going to be right back"( make sure it is alright with family members before doing this.) only leave for a breif moment, after doing this a few times the child will understand that you are not leaving him/her and that you will always return. let them know that too. it does help. i told my child when she was clingey that i would never leave her and that i will always came back for her. it may work it may not for you. i do believe that it is worth the try.
for the screaming bit- my daughter did that too- i just kept putting her in the time out spot and made known to her that her screaming was not bothering me, at times i would sit in the same room where she was at for time out and sometimes that would help. but i never talked to her while she was in time out. i always made sure to tell her why she was in time out
2006-11-11 09:16:42 · answer #3 · answered by tiger baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably reinforcing her by giving her a lot of attention and talking to her when she is clingy. So basically, she's just doing what works. You need to break that pattern and let her learn that she is still safe and that when you are done with work she will again have your attention.
2006-11-10 20:57:51 · answer #4 · answered by mazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem with my 3 yr. old i put her in school. she cried for a week and hit the teachers the first 3 days of school she finally got over it and now she is always ready to go to school. but it was even harder for her to understand cause i also work at her school. it was hard for her to separate.
2006-11-10 23:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by Michele G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
socialize her by taking her to mommy and me classes
let her scream when you put her on time out dont give in
at 3 years old she should get 3 minute time outs
it will take time but they outgrow it
2006-11-10 21:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she your second? If so, that's normal. Just don't let her get away with not obeying your commands.
2006-11-10 21:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need is a life-sezed cardboard cut-out of yourself - problem solved
2006-11-10 21:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by forex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋