They make me really nervous, and it seems like whenever a conversation is started it gets really awkward...
2006-11-10 12:49:33 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Practice makes one better little by little.
2006-11-10 12:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its one particular girl, don't think you're going to get into a deep philosophical discussion right off the bat. start by saying hi to her everyday. if its girls in general do little things like asking for a pencil or compliment something she's wearing. I know everyone is telling you to be outgoing, but I'm going to tell you to just be yourself. If you really like jello and you eat it through a straw, don't deny it, just don't tell her as an introduction. (ever see a christmas story, yeah, dont be like the airplane kid...) it also really depends on what kind of girl she is. find out what shes involved in. like if you know she's in drama, find out what it is she likes about it. here's an example of how a conversation would go.(also don't think "ack! I'm talking to a girl!" instead think "this subject is really interesting!")
you: hey, you're in drama right?
her: yeah...
you: well, I was wondering what show you guys were doing for the spring
her: Blah blah blah
you: respond w/ oh! what's that about?
she tells you plot. there is some sort of moral you can now talk about or you can branch it off from there.
Seriously, don't be too worried about it, even if you say something totally stupid, laugh it off and say gosh that was stupid of me to say... she'll either agree and walk away (these ones arent worth your time) or agree and laugh and share one time when she said something really stupid (these ones are good and now you have a bond) or she'll say "no, that wasn't stupid at all, you have some really good insight, what about blah blah?" and you continue to talk about something she is actually interested. Another conversation starter is, bringing up some sort of controversial issue. chances are she'll have a strong opinion or will know nothing about it and you can say, want to get together and i can explain it to you? ^_^ have fun most of all! and DO NOT STRESS! OKAY? ^_^ good luck!
2006-11-10 13:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by Babs' Flags 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Every guy is different, but I'm assuming 99% of them would rather have a girl that talks over a girl who gives one word answers and just stands there. But over-bubbly and girls that never shut up annoy everyone. Just be yourself, that's all you can do.
2016-03-19 06:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first just say Hi, and see what happens. You dont have to have a conversation first time out and need to get to know her and see what you have in common. Trust me they dont bite, but they do want someone that is sincere and wants to talk to them and get to know them. In time if she sees that you like her, she wil begin talking more to you and then your conversations will go farther. Just be yourself, she'll like you more for that.
2006-11-10 12:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by kevin T 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try researching some of her favorites, like what kind of music she likes, what kind of food she prefers (Oriental, Italian, Mexican, Thai, ect..), what some of her hobbies are, and just start talking about them. Ask her alot of questions, and I mean questions that need explaining, not those yes & no answers. And listen intently, make eye contact, and then add your input when she's finished, and when one subject is all talked out, bring up another.
2006-11-10 13:01:35 · answer #5 · answered by chevygirl6767 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, all you need to do is remember this: girls find confidence sexy. When you meet a girl, don't think about a relationship with her, just think of her as a friend, and make it your aim to make a new friend when you meet her. I used to be like that with guys, but suddenly i just got more confidence in dealing with them. don't think of every girl you meet as a potential friendship, rather a potential friend. trust me, it works!!! Good Luck! :)
2006-11-10 12:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by jemm4president 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ask her about herself. Compliment her on things that she might get modest about.
Tell a beautiful girl she's smart, and tell a smart girl she's beautiful.
2006-11-10 12:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by Sabby 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Jake,
Women like to talk about themselves so let them. Step back and become a good listener.
TDCWH
2006-11-10 12:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by TDCWH 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just ask questions about her. All women love to talk about themselves.
2006-11-10 12:53:44 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask about her interests, herself, her family, etc. and tell yourself to calm down before you start talking to a girl and that it'll be ok.
2006-11-10 12:55:20 · answer #10 · answered by sugar n' spice 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋