Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years now, but things are starting to change. We do have a long distance relationship, but only since recently when our work separated us. He has been great with seeing each other on the weekends, occassionally, but lately that has come to a stand still as well. When I call him, it seems like days before he'll call me back and when he does finally call me like two days later, he says he got a headache or didn't feel and that's why he didn't call.
We are in love with each other, or at least that what we say. He asked me the other day when I wanted to get married, but his words and his actions are saying too completely different things. Today I asked him about his weekend plans and he informed me about some big news that had happened at work a week ago! When I asked why he didn't share he said it wasn't a big deal so he didn't feel the need to share. I see this differently...I thought you share things with your future husband
2006-11-10 12:34:46 · 11 answers · asked by Betsy B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Run now before it's too late. If he's not honest with you now he never will be
2006-11-10 12:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be cool with the idea from the start with us only seeing each other only on the weekends, that was also a mistake on your part...opened a door for other actions and thought to cross his mind.. And since you did that also left open a door to a change as well the changes you are seeing are that of a man that really doesn't care about you really....If he all of a sudden doesn't feel happy to see you then obviously he is talking or seeing someone else and is stringing you along for the ride...The other thing neither of you are sure you love each other...Example I note by what you said We are in love with each other, or at least that is what we say...both of you haven't a clue about each other and how each other feel you are really both going in the motions with each other...There really isn't any love there from the both of you...I don't know if it is you or if it is all him but there is a true fact that both of you are really not in love with each other..
My advice to you instead of getting married and this also benfits you...I would take my time and as long as possible with any decision about getting married right at this moment ...at least till one or both are really sure your feelings are genuine and true to each other....also as for him he needs the time to find out what it is that he really wants too, because we really don't know his story at all we are only speculating on what is going on he needs to also grow up and be a man and come clean to what it is that he wants from you and what he wants else your inpending marriage will not even happen and if it does there is a big disaster that is waiting to happen for you...and maybe even him.
Take your time and don't rush this marriage with him simply because there are things that you need to know first and I suggest that you find them out before you make that commitment..to keep you from being hurt...There is enough broken hearted women and men who rush into a marriage and don't take time to get to know that person from habits on down.
Take your time you won't regret it...God Bless and Be peace with you!!
2006-11-10 20:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think long distance relationships work.....Only because you are not with that person everyday and you just grow apart, when you are not there he just thinks about him self then when you call he feels he has to call you back, i don't think it will work much longer it's to stretched, i was in a long distance relationship with a guy and we just driffeted apart after a while i ended up falling for someone else, so we decided to end it!
2006-11-10 20:42:20 · answer #3 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
holy crap, men don't speak, we eat, we like sex, sleep and TV, telling you about our day sucks because we forget all the details. hearing your story sucks because you tell us all the details, and we could care less what so and so was wearing just get to the frigging point........
You find a guy who is a chatty Cathy and he'll annoy the crap out of you in 24 hours. men are internal, women are external. We are the complete opposite of our reproductive organs. Kinda ironic if you think about it. he loves you plenty, he just doesn't want to bring work home with him.
2006-11-10 20:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems like things are turning for the worse so who have he hooked up with or who else is he saying so i wouldn't waste my time just let it go and move on cause he not going to be faithful he is giving you signs now good luck
2006-11-10 20:43:19 · answer #5 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do unless there are no plans to be married. Its a sign you might want to look at closely
2006-11-10 20:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by scottb03gt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is having second thoughts..or maybe he is just too busy with work and life and all..maybe you should be a more understanding of his feelings..and if this bothers you dear , you should talk to him about it..dont wait til its too late..
2006-11-10 20:39:56 · answer #7 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry your realtionship is cooling down, you should let him know about all this questions you have
2006-11-10 20:47:03 · answer #8 · answered by gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't read to much into him not telling you about work, but be careful on your decision about marriage
2006-11-10 20:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by Cobra 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont marry this man,,cant u see he keeps secrets
2006-11-10 20:38:43 · answer #10 · answered by native,pride 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋