is she just confused..?

Question

i dated this girl in high school..we were together 4 months and then i broke up with her..she remained obsessed with me for 3 more years...i also still had feelings for her, i just thought she was too immature back then..she wouldnt move on or give any other guy a chance, just incase i wanted to be with her again..eventually she met a guy and was with him for 2 years..they broke up on and off for last few months..we hadnt really talked much up until that was happening..i saw that she was in pain and i was being there for her, being someone to make her feel better..eventually they did break up for good and we started hanging out and got together..we were so happy together for a month..out of nowhere she says she has to go back to him..2 days later she cant do it and she loves me..we get back together for 2 months...she tells me every day she loves me. we never fight, we always laugh and have fun, we spend every day together..out of nowhere she did it again..

after 2 months of telling me everyday that she loves me, that i make her so happy, that its like a fairytale and that when she went back to him the first time it just wasnt the same. she would say i dont know how to prove it to you but i dont love him...i love you...now she refuses to talk to me cuz she wants to make it work with him...they broke up because he never has time for her..he works non stop and has time for her past 11pm after work..then on his one day off he would make other plans without her..now i finally talked to her last night and she says i want to make it work with him its different this time, he makes time for me now...shes been with him now a week..she was back with him the next day after leaving me...i told her that ofcourse he does its been a week and he knows u will leave him if he doesnt...but people dont change..and i told her that i just wanted her to know that i love her more than anything in the world and that she deserves someone that will appreciate her..

it just seems to me like, they were breaking up and she was really sad...she saw that the guy she always wanted (me) was being really nice to her and actually cared...she knew that i would be with her so she just like completely forgot about the other guy for the moment...she didnt really give it that chance to see if it was really over cuz she was just in shock that i felt the way i did for her, i finally came around....after the first month she had to go back to him to see if it was really over...but i was still here telling her like how much i loved her and all that so she wasnt ready to go bac to him...she was just so in awe that she ignored it again...then after 2 months she found out that he was talking to another girl and thought oh ****, im gonna lose him for good..but how can she just forget that what we had was so amazing we loved each other so much...we couldnt be apart for more then a few hours, i know that she felt it to...i am so in love with her and this is soooooo hard

Answer 1

Been there done that.Yes shes confused.Shes probably not sure who she wants to be with so when something happens she bounces back to the other.Kinda like a safety net so she doesnt gert hurt.
Tell her you wont be with her unless she makes up her mind.And If she does it again, dont go back.Shes toying with you and will do it as long as you let her. BELIEVE me.

Answer 2

Sound's like you've landed yourself a fiddler, and she knows exactly what strings to pluck to get whatever emotion she wants out of you.

An above poster had the right idea; this girl is just bouncing between you and beau number two, waiting until she tires of one to return to the other. Why should she have to choose you or him when all she has to do to keep stringing you along is pop in every now and then and swear to the stars that she loves you?

We girls are better than emoting at men, but please, fellows, don't fall victim to every pair of dewy wet eyes you see. Girls like the one you've got give our gender a bad name. You'd be much, much better off finding a woman who will be honest, loving and above all, faithful to you.

The emotional damage you'd suffer dealing with your girlfriend's flighty ways could be averted if you cut it off now. It'll be hard, but it needs to be done; just don't fall prey to her when she inevitably comes crying back and promising her eternal love to you. She's a girl who will never be satisfied with what she's got, and why waste your love on someone who won't stick around long enough to appreciate it?

Answer 3

I've been in this situation before..
she probably likes the other guy, but really loves you.. but then she gets thinking and thinks no, i just need to get over him.. But she cant. If you guys are happy together. and you love eachother.. thats just how it is. Love is love. This is her problem.. she needs to realize that you guys should be together. She just needs time to think.
Good luck !

Answer 4

If you want someone to play around with...she's your girl. If you want someone who has the potential to be something real....ditch her. She's not confused...she's using you (and the other guy). She gets mad at you...she still has him. She gets mad at him...she still has you. She needs to deal with the choices she makes. She's bouncing because she doesn't WANT to make up her mind between you. It's too easy having one guy to have fun with, while keeping on in reserve for when the other gets boring. She seems shallow and too immature to take a relationship seriously. It's all superficial to her.

Answer 5

Well she's probably going to come back to you....all you have to do is say "look.....i can't keep being your second choice.....this needs to be real...if you do this agin we're through for good

Answer 6

Talk to her she can't keep on leading you on like this . Give an ultimatum!

Answer 7

sounds like she is playing you both like a fiddle

good luck and smile big even though it hurts

Answer 8

Still immature, undecisive, and insecure.

Answer 9

awww go back with er

Answer 10

shes mental