I am a virgin and i never really had a problem with pre-marital sex untill i met my bestfriend who is catholic and is always talking about saving herself for marriage, Im not religious or anything but i kinda like the idea of remaining pure and innocent untill marraige, yet when i think about it i wouldnt want to go into a marraige and have sex be an issue never knowing what its like, so im not sure if im pro or against it. Could someone by any chance impose there views about it on me please?
2006-11-10 12:03:31 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Virginity is something that has to be lost by the age of 22.
2006-11-12 04:23:58 · answer #1 · answered by me8md 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm against pre marital sex and am a virgin, and i believe its not just for remaining pure n innocent till marriage...it prevents heart ache and prevents a girl from being used as a sex object. its about self respect and not allowing urself to be taken advantage of. most of my friends are into sex and alot of them regret it and end up feeling used. it's best to save your body for the guy who's truly worthy of u after he's truly commited to u. And no, its not a religion thing, its about loving yourself before u can give ur body to anyone else.
2006-11-10 20:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey follow your heart. dont go off of your friends views do what you think is best for you. sex can be special but yet theres ways to have sex before marriage and it still be special after you have had it for the first time. its all in the way you think about it. if you think about it you may even have a bad experience with it after you have been married several years on down the road. when you have sex is because you know its right. when i lost my virginity i was 16 and i thought the dude i was with was special but when i look back at it he was only like 15 years old and he stayed in a lot of trouble.. he was even abusive to me. but i didnt let that stop me for moving on and going into a special relationship i been in it since i was 17. me and my boyfriend have sex but its because we want to. if you have sex and then argue make sure its someone you love and that you know you can work your disagreements out with because sex wont mean anything if the person is not right. stay away from those guys who say they want to be with and then tell you that they want to marry you have a kids with you during sex.
i dont know exactly what your views are but you should figure out what you want to do. if you have sex now and find out you dont like it you do not have to keep doing it. go and be selevant ( having sex and then stopping because you dont want to do it no more until your married.
your friend being catholic kind of has something to do with her not having sex but its more on the way she was raised. her parents have raised her to not want to have sex until she is married.
2006-11-10 20:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by g_gurl161 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your virginity is your gift to your husband and if you are lucky, his to you. Learning together and knowing that you are the first for each other can really be a strong point in your marriage. I know it is very fashionable today to have casual sex but look around at the result in society. Babies having babies, unwanted babies, babies put in trash bags and thrown out in the garbage or stuffed behind bushes, single moms having to raise their children on public assistance, asking for a measly hand-out. And then there are the diseases out there; the gifts that keep on giving. You really don't want to have to bother with all that and the way to avoid it is to be selective in your choice of company you keep. Be an individualist and honor yourself.
2006-11-10 20:11:44 · answer #4 · answered by Rita T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's super-duper important you wait til your married, but i would wait till your old enough to handle it emotionally and whoever you have sex with isn't a Jack**. A couple of reasons i wouldn't wait until marriage is one, b/c i wouldn't want to have had just have sex with one man in my whole life. two,you should play the fields and fully experience the college life style which doesn't mean have sex with anything that moves and act like a you-know-what just have fun before you get married.
2006-11-10 20:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by mstweetstarr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well two way to look at it,if you get married before you have sex then you will always wonder what is some one else like or am I(you)doing it right or is he doing it right if you get married you will never know.I don't think saving your virginity is all of that I would all bet you the man you marry fooled around.
2006-11-10 20:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by Douglas R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think socially it is important. But I do not see sex as a dirty thing, therefore purity does is not an issure. In the same way innocence and guilt are not the matter. What I think is important is how you value it. If it does not matter, then I would save it just incase someone special in the future values it.
2006-11-10 20:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by T-Roc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God intend the sex act for procreation of the human species with marriage, and also for a husband and wife to express their physical love for each other. God Did NOT intend sex to be a contact sport, or for experimentation purposes. You wanted a Catholic's perspective, and this is it.
2006-11-10 20:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a good way to separate the boys from the men. If someone loves you enough, then they should respect your decision IF you don't want sex before marriage.
adriana lima is still a virgin!! shocker eh?
2006-11-10 20:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Importance shouldn't be the question. It's what you're comfortable with that matters. Just do what you feel is right for you and don't worry about where it'll lead down the road. You can cross that bridge when you come to it.
2006-11-10 20:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋