there is a girl i meet in college.infact she came to me to ask for friendship.we became friends and i really liked her.she always called me or sent sms which i readilly replied.suddenly she stopped answering my calls and didnt reply my sms.she stopped communicating/one day after i had sent a number of sms she answered and asked me what i wanted.i said for us to be friends.she agreed but said that we are only friends when i told her how i felt about her.she refused to tell why she didnt want me to call or send sms to her,but she insisted all was fine between us and that i had not done anything wrong.since then i haue not called her or sent any sms for fear she may get annoyed with me.when we meet in college our talks do not go beyond hi's and 'how are you's'.please advice me on what to do.i wanna win her heart.
2006-11-10 11:43:16 · 19 answers · asked by Shady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me like you became too attached and she did not want that. The same thing just happened to me with a girl who I just wanted to be friends wth and she kept trying to keep my attention. I just stopped all communication because she wasn't or was unable to understand my disinterest.
Just move on, if you keep contacting her it will feel like harassment.
2006-11-11 03:32:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, "I just want to be friends" is often used as a "polite" way of blowing off other people. And if I were you, I would not initiate any contact lest you will probably annoy her. I can remember making this mistake some years ago, and nearly getting my head ripped off in the process. I still shake in my boots when I think about what happened.
2006-11-10 19:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't want u to call or sms her because she is involved with another, just distance yourself, be polite and cordial, but don't press the issue. there is someone else in her life right now, and she doesn't know how to tell u, and is afraid if she does tell u, that she will have burned her bridges with you, and she may still be interested in you, just be patient, not pushy. we all go through these rejections with people we care about, but there are alot of other girls out there also, if u want to win this ones heart, don't push things, be patient for awhile, with in reason, and if she still doesn't respond and if she wants no ore than friendship from u, than u have to respect her wishes, and look ahead to your future.
2006-11-10 19:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might have another man in her life. and she may also just drop you...you know just like pick up herself and move on. try setting a little get together with her and try to talk to her about it. like tell her to meet you at a cafe or some food place. maybee then you can uncover the truth. but i say try to talk to her about it and see how that turns up..best of luck to u man...remember its not called tough love for nothing. good luck!
2006-11-10 19:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by beautiful_but_hates_it_2012 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women do this.
Men do this, but women do this more...sorry, that's just the way it is. I know that sounds bad. It goes along with, "I just want to be happy." Know this...if she's fickle, you are much better off. If you are not running now, why not. Run far, run fast...you'll find one that's not so loopy. It just takes time. I wish they had medical tests for this. lol. j/k
2006-11-10 19:46:51 · answer #5 · answered by OhIdonno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you already creeped her out..maybe you were getting the wrong impression that she wanted to be more then friends..truth is if she was interested in you in that way she wouldnt have minded you being all over her and telling her you like her..she isnt interested in you as a lvoer..sorry dude..you can only be her friend and that is not going to change..
2006-11-10 19:50:39 · answer #6 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just move on. She's not interested. Don't bother trying to figure it out. You'll just continue to feel bad.
2006-11-10 19:47:31 · answer #7 · answered by Ace Librarian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, you can't make anyone love you. Sounds like she has issues. Find a girl that will love you no matter what!
2006-11-10 19:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out of fear you may annoy her, son that ship has done sailed already. you've graduated to frightening her. my advice back off.
2006-11-10 19:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by mark_grvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's just it, you're not going to win her heart. she told you that she just wants to be friends. so when you told her that you had feelings for her, it caused her to want to stay away from you. she isn't interested in you like that, move on.
2006-11-10 19:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋