She never talks about getting married or having kids or anything like that. What does this mean??
2006-11-10 11:29:40 · 58 answers · asked by Mike A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There is no definite time to get married - i was with partner for four years before we got engaged and another four years before we got married. Bring the subject of marriage up and see how the conversation goes. If you both decide not to get married, you should definitely make a Will each to ensure the other is taken care of should anything happen. Not being morbid, but unfortunately people often miss out on taking care of their partner due to not being married and making their wishes clear.
2006-11-12 03:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably she doesn't want to push you - or she's just happy with things how they are and she doesn't need to get married to be happy. That's good - sounds like you have a good girlfriend with a good head on her shoulders...
There's also a chance that SHE doesn't want to get married but you are the only on how knows her and can tell the difference..
If she has NEVER once in 6 years mentioned having kids that would definately mean she doesn't want any!
I can't believe you guys have never talked about it though - you need to sit down and communicate and make sure you are on the same path and want the same things.
2006-11-10 15:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my husband had a good idea of how long he wanted to wait before we got married, and so did I. What I mean by that is that we both thought that two years was ideal to get to know the person that you were dating well enough to decide whether or not you wanted to spend the rest of your life with them.
Two years, to us, was enough time to know how the other felt about raising kids, money management, religion, and various moral issues.
Basically, what I'm saying is this: You may be head-over-heels in love with her. She may feel the same about you...
... But, she may also have a time frame that she feels is appropriate before marriage comes into the picture. Also, if she's been through a bad relationship at any point, she may be still trying to decide if you are "the one".
Be patient with her... Also, though, before you propose, ask her where she sees your relationship in ten years. Tell her that you need an honest answer, and emphasize how important her answer is to you.
If she sees you in her future, wait until she's more comfortable with the time that you have been together before proposing. There are a lot of things that you two need to discuss before getting married.
Good luck to you!
2006-11-10 11:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Getting married is just getting a piece of paper. Sometimes a relationship is okay and similar to being married... you don't need that marriage license to tell her you love her, and your are committed to her. The only you need is security, love, trust, honesty and a true committment to each other. If she mentions it later on down the road, then perhaps you can consider it then. If this is a thought in your head, you feel more secure getting married, then discuss it with her. If she is interested in getting married then don't propose on Christmas, because she will be expecting it. Wait until New Year Eve, or Valentine Day
2006-11-10 11:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy Shut Your Mouth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, would you like to get married to her and have kids? Does marriage mean anything to you? If yes, then I think you should talk about it with her, I mean, if you have been together for six years it is the kind of thing you should know each others views on. Also, someone may want to get married and not have kids.
2006-11-11 03:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by Rose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter if you have been in a relationship for 1 week or 10 years... before getting married talk about the future and what each of you expect from one another. the three main topics are money management, sexual expectations, and being able to communicate your needs. some people get into this "well, he should know what i'm thinking" mode and then things just go down hill. how do you plan on raising your kids? how do you plan on getting a house; does one of you have bad credit and hidden bills that they aren't talking about? when you get married you are supposed to be working as a team but some people treat it like "oh, i've won the lottery and don't have to work anymore".
2006-11-10 20:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have lived with my boyfriend for 4 yrs. He was in a bad marriage and my first marriage ended in divorce and my second my husband died, we do not have any plans on ever getting married if it is meant to be it will.
If you truely love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her then by all means ask her, if she has some pet peves that tick you off then maybe now is not the time.
She may not have ever mentioned marriage because she is afraid you would get scared away. Some guys are like that. Maybe you should approach the subject just to see what her reaction will be. If she is all for it then yes by all means get down on that one knee and ask for her hand in marriage, if not then continue with the relationship you have. It has worked for 6 yrs now and I hope it lasts a lifetime for the both of you. Good luck and I might add congratulations in advance.
2006-11-10 11:43:53 · answer #7 · answered by miamac49616 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is never time to propose. If you want to make a commitment and spend the rest of your life with this person then you should ask her to marry you. If the two of you are happy with the way things are at this time then why change the situation.
2006-11-10 22:13:34 · answer #8 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that is a discussion the two of you should be having. I would imagine you have discussed how many children you want, all financial aspects and how you will achieve success. Your plans for investments if you are going to have children, plans for retirement and 401ks, or IRA'S.
And the big question, just how much in love you are, and are either one of you ready for a commitment that is not to be taken lightly and requires love, caring, sharing and communication from day one for the rest of your life.
Having been married to the same wonderful lady for almost 40 years, I know it takes work, and to always know that the person you love is first and foremost your best friend.
2006-11-10 11:44:36 · answer #9 · answered by John E 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
id say she is waiting for a sign of commitment from you. Im guessing she does not want to scare you off by harping on about marriage and kids. Yes it is time to pop that question. I have been with my partner for 6 years. (today actually!) I am still waiting for the ring! We have a 2 year old and my patience is wearing thin. Ive told him how i feel. a couple of hundred times by now. Im hoping for my diamond by xmas! If you two have been together for 6 years you must be serious about each other. And have a future together. Buy that ring and make her day. Something romantic. Good luck!
2006-11-10 11:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by Teresa M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋