i have a bf weve been together over month, and now i have been talkin with this dude that is fallin for me hard. he actually asked could i imagine havin his baby in the future, and keep askin me to let him be my "other man" i dont know if i should. i dont really want to cheat, but im fallin for him too. (he says its not cheatin if noone but us knows about it). im 18yrs old, he's 20 if that matter to anyone
2006-11-10 11:21:28 · 32 answers · asked by liltammy1988 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he does talk about other things, its not like he always sayin i want to have sex with u. he only says he'll be my other man cuz i wont break up with my current bf.
2006-11-10 11:30:25 · update #1
he also says alot that if my bf mess up, hell be waitin for me, cuz he really wish he could have somthin serious wit me
2006-11-10 11:37:59 · update #2
NO.Do on to others...
First of all, this guy doesnt sound like a winner.If you have only been talking to this guy for a little while and hes talking about babies and the future, somethings wrong.He cant be too smart if hes talking about kids with a girl he doesnt know.two, he cant care about you that much if hes willing to share you.It sounds like he wants sex without the commitment and the hassle.Classic dog.
With AIDS out there I wouldnt be too quick to sleep around.Condoms arent %100 you know.Know who you are dealing with.What if you did get pregnant, would you know whose it was? Lastly show some respect.You say you love your bf but obviously not.If you can be wooed by some guy you just met.What did your bf do to deserve that? What if he cheated on you? Played with your life by spreading disease behind your back?
You are young.If you want to date around be single.
2006-11-10 11:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by TJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're only 18, and you've only been with your boyfriend for a month, then this is hardly a predicament. Break up with your boyfriend before you get together with this other guy. Your boyfriend at least deserves that. But be prepared that the other guy might leave you once you break up with your boyfriend. I'd be suspicious of a guy who WANTS to be your "other man." I would think that if he really liked you, he'd want to be your ONLY man, and would want you to break up with your boyfriend first. Don't start cheating on anyone- that's not the right thing to do.
2006-11-10 11:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is simply not worth it. If u wanna be with the "other man" than be with him. Don't waste ur bf's time by leading him on and then cheating on him. And this "other man" doesn't care about you the way u think he does bcuz a real man respects the fact that a woman has somebody and doesn't lure her into doing something that will hurt another person. U need to make up ur mind and get ur sh*t together
2006-11-10 11:27:22 · answer #3 · answered by dcutegirl06 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okaii...your not a "ho" for starters. Your just confused.
To be honest, don't break up with your boyfriend, becasue you've been going out just over a month right?
Well your boyfriend must really love you, and for him to find out you broken up with him for another guy, he will be devastated and really heart broken!
Be friends with the guy who has a crush on you, and try to remember that your boyfriend loves you very much.
How long have you know this other guy properly?
Because things could go so wrong if you dump your boyfriend for that other guy.
Don't cheat because cheating hurts so much, and it'll hurt not only you, but everyone else.
Follow your heart, and make the best decision for all three of you.
I know it can be hard. But think of your boyfriends point of view, your point of view and the other guys point of view.
Just whatever you do don't cheat on your boyfriend!!!!!
Best of luck!
2006-11-10 11:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by Shayne R 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you exclusive with this boyfriend? If you are not then seeing someone else is not cheating. If you are...then you need to look at changing things if you want to date the other guy. Cheating is cheating no matter what. If you want to date around...and at 18 you should be "playing the feild"...make sure you are honest and tell the guys that you are seeing other people. Just do yourself a favor if you are going to see more than one guy at a time keep them all out of your bedroom!!!
2006-11-10 11:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do you like your first friend at all cause if there is no love then do the right thing and let him go and this second dude i wouldn't trust him cause why do he want this to be you and his secret so what is he hiding from you don't fall for the old oak game cause if he wants you then who do he have on the side that you don't know about!!! see the signs stay with your first cause if you don't you have no one to blame but your self that you let the good one get away good luckPS: what look good ain't always good
2006-11-10 11:32:34 · answer #6 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him then dump the BF (it's only been a month for gosh sake) and go out with this other guy. But I have to say, if you can't even stay faithful for a month, then you need serious help.
2006-11-10 11:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure it is still cheating, it will still hurt someone. your so young and u believe everything men tell u. don't cheat on your boyfriend, while your still with him, have the decency to break up with him, before u decide to be with someone else. your too young to have a baby, love is more than having babies. does this guy talk about committment, what are his intentions apart from a sexual relationship? things u need to think about before u break up with your boyfriend for someone who may not have your best interests at heart.
2006-11-10 11:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
honey - its cheatin no matter what he says. IF you want the guy, break up with your current man. If not, tell the dude to get lost.
2006-11-10 11:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by theotherwoman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh lord! thats a major decision u have to make...this 20 yr. old is not going to last too long, i mean someone who can convince u to cheat can ALSO convince his next gf to cheat too! Dont you think?! + Isnt the guy ure already going out with way to nice, for you to go with someone who encourages cheating>?!?
2006-11-10 11:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by HAPPY <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋