2006-11-10 11:15:03 · 8 answers · asked by A.C. 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
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2006-11-10 15:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yeh, never told, the experience has haunted my life. It was many years ago, but I have started talking about it recently and it helps. A lot. Don't keep the secret. It ultimately will hurt you more than the abuse. This is the most important thing to know.
Regarding whoever abused you in whatever manner that person has problems that need attention. You can't save him/her/them from themselves. You cannot protect them because that just enables them to keep abusing, and believe it or not, abusers hurt themselves when they abuse others.
Silence might seem like the safest way, but in the end it really does far more harm to everyone. Tell someone who can help you or help connect you with the very many resources available to you. The scariest part is getting those first words out. After that, it gets much, much better.
2006-11-10 20:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by Alex62 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi, yes I know how it feels. I was in that situation too.... let me put it this way. The abuser should go and get some help... like to see the doctor or counselling or something. He should not be doing these things to you. Do you have a safe place to stay? Just in case he acts like that again.... just go and stay at the other place so that he wont hurt you. Or you could tell him how you feel and ask him why he does that.... is it out of pleasure or discipline? If he says discipline... then tell him how you feel about it.... that you don't like it or vice versa. Ya... you've probably heard.... foster homes aren't really that good.. its really rough... its like, been there done that. And ive tried calling the police once too; but they don't really do much other than make the situation worse... its sometimes good to call them when you need help though but during these cases... it could make things worse (it did for me). So I left them and I tried dealing with it myself. Plus; if I were to stay in a foster home I wouldn't be able to get my degree. But I agree with everyone else that you should tell someone that you trust; about the situation. Good luck and I hope this helps.
2006-11-10 19:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your parents are abusing you then you have to tell someone. I know it is very difficult, especially if you rely on them for things but you will thank yourself later.
If you are being abused by a partner then you must leave them. They will abuse again.
You can talk with a teacher, a doctor, a clergy, a nurse, anyone at all who can help. But you must do it now to save yourself!!
Please do this.
2006-11-10 19:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa M 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The first thing is that you have to be safe. If you are still in contact with the abuser then you really need to put your fear aside and tell someone you can trust.
2006-11-10 19:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by asiwant 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell a friend or teacher or someone. You need to do this, or the person may abuse someone else. You don't want someone you know to go through what you went through; do you?
And, you need support & help. You were not responsible for what happened to you.
I kept quiet for years, & now I regret not going after him legally when I had the chance.
2006-11-10 19:47:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everyone that has been abused is afraid.
But sometimes the fear ends up to be greater than telling someone.
To share a problem is to half a problem, it really is. You will know this when you do it. Sooner or later you will tell someone!
It is better to do it soon!!
good luck to you.
2006-11-10 19:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are abused, you have to tell someone. If you don't you won't be able to live with yourself. If the person threatens you, don't listen. Nothing will happen. Hope this helped!
2006-11-10 19:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by i♥soffes! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋