My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. How can I keep her spirits up?

Answer 1

Tell her that there are over 100 alternative cures for cancer, which her doctor is not allowed to talk about, even if he knows about them.
Then do some research, find the right one for your mother, and help her to get the cure that she deserves.

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Answer 2

I was diagnosed with breast cancer 2 and a half years ago. I was thinking back about what people did for me that helped me get through it. My family was very helpful. There were times when I felt fine one minute and then next it felt like I was hit by a train. I had to go lay down for those times. When my hair started to fall out, I got it shaved and had them put an "I *heart* D"---my husband---on my head.

It helped to have meals cooked for us, as I had a newborn and an 18 month old at home too. Some books I read...

B.O.O.B.S--- which stand for a "Bunch Of ....darn it, I can't remember (chemo can do that to a person, be patient with that too). I have a book called "Nordie's at Noon" that I haven't read yet, but that is about breast cancer survivors. Oh! Oh! It's a "Bunch of Outrageous Breast cancer Survivors" Whew!

Dr Susan Love's Breast Book is really good too. It explains a lot of the terms and the other confusing stuff.

You seem like a good person who wants to be there for your mom. Do that. Ask her what she needs, even though she may not tell you. I had a hard time letting people help me since I was always the caretaker. It's hard, but you guys will be there for each other. Good luck!

Answer 3

I am so sorry but you have to believe this, She will beat this thing. If you stay positive it will help her too. I suspect you are a son. I know from experience this is even harder for you. This past yr. I did battle with the monster & it is a monster. I am now cancer free & I have recovered from the treatments. I truly feel very good.I have 3 sons & so much of it was so hard for them to understand, but all of them stuck by me. I was scared of course before treatment started. You real don't know what to expect. One of them was 800 miles away. He called & caught on that I was having a hard time. 8:00PM. at 5:00 am. the next morning he was bang on the door. Drove all that way. Just knowing how much he cared help me get on with it. So just stand by. The littlest thing can mean so much to her. I always thought I raised 3 good guys. Now I know I did. The treatment is long & drawn out. Hard on every body. Help her any way you can. She needs to talk let her know you will listen. God be with you through this. My prayers for her.

Answer 4

Just let her know that anytime she needs to talk about what's going on, you are ready to listen to her. Cancer is a very scary thing for people. Your mom needs as much emotional support as you're able to give her. Also, you might want to take her out for lunch or to a movie or just go for a walk with her somewhere. It's important for people who have live with serious illness to know that they can still partcipate in all the good things life has to offer. And if you pray, make sure to pray for her everyday.

Answer 5

Let her know that you understand it sucks, but that you've been a-surfing and now know that though "breast cancer" is a horrible thing to hear you have, it is a VERY treatable and surviveable condition in 2006. As long as she has been diagnosed before it has spread, while she won't be "fine", she'll do okay.

Buy her a really, really, really silly hat, and tell her it's so people won't stare in case her hair falls out during chemo. "no, they're just staring at your hat, mum!"

Try to protect her from idiots who try to get her to drink noni juice or sleep with special crystals under her pillow, and encourage her to do a little surfing herself, and learn as much as she can.

Best wishes...

Answer 6

Last year my mom was diagnosed with lung cancer. I think it helped alot that we didnt make a big deal out of it in front of her. When she started losing her hair, we just joked a little to her about how she was looking more like us... I guess everyone copes with things differently, but it's natural for my family to joke when we get together, so we just wanted her to feel that this 'thing' wasnt going to change anything.
Its very hard, and you just have to be there for her....

Answer 7

keep reminding her of the things that are great in her life and what she has to fight for, this worked for my gran when she had cancer and she lived for another 20 years after being diagnosed!
laughter also worked even though you might not feel you have anything to laugh about......find some old and embarrasing photos or talk about when you were younger, or when she was younger!

sorry to hear about your mum!!
good luck!

Answer 8

It sounds like she's already in the hands of a caring family, which is HUGE!!
Call your local American Cancer Society chapter or go on their website for an immense ocean of resources and answers.
Good luck to her and all your family.

Answer 9

first of all im sorry to hear that u can keep ur moms hopes up by just being with her and showing her how much u really care.there is a hope that she can cure this cancer and pray that she isa survivor of breast cancer good luck and remeber to keep ur hopes up

Answer 10

be there for her, let her know that you love her,all she has to do is do what the doctors say and she will be fine, I recently had a biopsy, but my doc says it's probably benign,if not I have stage 0
cancer which is very early and very treatable, let her know cancer is not a death sentence anymore, there are many women and men living with cancer everyday, and living full lives
good luck to you and your mom :)