How much do women really care about a man's past relationships? Granted getting an honest answer could be hard, but would you want to know every gory detail, numbers, etc, or does it just not bother you at all? Is it possible a guy who has not had many relationships would be worse than having a ton? If so, why?
2006-11-10 10:57:15 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it really depends on the girl....some like the bad boy types that have had plenty of experience and then some like good boys that they can learn and grow together
2006-11-10 11:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by rebecca p 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You know, I think it doesn't matter how many relationships you have had. What makes you better or what makes you worse in a relationship is what you really feel for the other person. I personally like to know every detail of past relationships cause then you get to know a lot more about the man one is dating.
2006-11-10 19:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We care a lot. We feel like it is a predictor of the future. I personally wanted to know every women my husband had been with, then after the fact I wish I hadn't ask. I think it is a good idea to not to tell everything. We need to get pass the past. Sometimes it is real hard when we know it all. To me, the less relationships the less baggage and all the better. The next women might feel different. Fortunately we are all different.
2006-11-10 19:04:06 · answer #3 · answered by Janet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very good question! Well for starters, we as women are interested in what sort of character we're potentially dating. I mean if you left a trail of women behind you, obviously you have had issues with commitment. If you have like three baby momma's, well that means you can't keep it in your pants and have commitment issues. If you dated one girl and haven't dated since you broke up with her then that means you are loyal and very selective. It's important to know about the person you are seeing, past and present. You need to get a general idea of who your going to be giving your heart and body to. Yes it is possible that a guy with like a few past relationships to be worse than a guy with a ton, but the situations may vary you know and it's too vague to detail.
2006-11-10 19:04:11 · answer #4 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I like to know about my boyfriend's past.
He's had a lot of girlfriends. So I know the basics of his past.
Sorry, I don't want to know every gory detail about his relationships. I'm just not comfortable with that.
Sometimes, I feel uncomfortable with the idea of him having so many relationships (some really long) and me not having hardly any at all.
But the past is the past. I'm thankful we're together in the present.
2006-11-10 19:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I need to know his history, but I don't need to know the details. A guy with fewer relationships is probably more sincere about who he gets involved with. Men who have a "ton" of relationships use women like tissue- they're meaningless. I think we all have a pretty good idea about what we consider normal or acceptable. If something feels weird, we should pay attention to that and move on.
2006-11-10 18:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No i admire a man that hasnt been in and out of relationships, but i dont ask, as long as they check out medically, ie no diseases its his own business. I dont care to be compared or to hear any details at all. Thats private, if he starts telling me gory details then i feel he would talk about me in the same fashion. Thats between two adults, who at the time shared something special, dont ruin it by blabbing
2006-11-10 19:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by iluvluceee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the biggest thing is a guy with a big number. This is not to do with experience, just to do with how he views sex & relationships. If he has had a large number of relationships, be it genuine relationships or one night stands, it is unlikely he will hang around too long after you have had sex with him. Similarly it is unlikely that the relationship will last too long fullstop. A lower number of relationships would not be a problem for me, it says that you don't give your heart/time away too easily.
2006-11-10 19:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by girls_lie_too_23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I am from a small town and everyone pretty much knows who everyone is so I do my mans past history. I do not want to know all of the nitty gritty but as far as who and how long ya. It gives one a sense of what you are in for. Men with not as much experience are great to. They have so much more passion and desire to want to make a relationship work.
2006-11-10 19:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to know some details about who, how long, how it ended,who broke it off, do they still see them around, do they still carry there number and why if so, but after i get those details I'd be ok. cos it starts to get a bit obsessive and that's not attractive in a person.how many depends. if i went out with a guy who had more than say, 10 i would reconsider having a relationship cos it just shows to me that he loves his women.
2006-11-10 19:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Knowing the details is like looking at are car accident. You know you shouldn't but something just compels you and you are usually more disturbed for knowing the truth. If he's had too many you worry about disease and illegitimate children. Plus since he's had so many you question whether you will live up to his expectations. Sorry girls just over analyse. Also if he hasn't had many then you worry if he actually knows what he is doing and if he will live up to your expectations or will you have to show him how which for alot of us is a terrifying thought.
2006-11-10 19:04:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋