I've been with my partner for almost 4 years now. When we started out everything was great. I was sure I had found my soulmate, but as the years went by I found out I was more outgoing and my partner not so much. I was into doing fun things to keep the relationship interesting but my partner not so much. My partner thinks the relationship is perfect, but lately I have been thinking about a different person, almost constantly. Not thinking about this person sexually, but just thinking about spending time with this individual and having a future with this individual. What do you think this means for my current relationship? Do I really love my current partner? In my heart I feel I do, but how could I love one person and picture a future with another person???!!!!!
2006-11-10 10:49:30 · 8 answers · asked by HottGuy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you need to move on. Real love isn't about fantasizing about other men almost constantly. It's possible that you and your current partner aren't compatible. This probably should have ended 3 years ago, but once someone said "soul mate" it was like beating a dead horse to "make it work".
2006-11-10 10:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know it is common for people to feel this way! Did you take vows???? Because if you did...you promised this person..that you would forsake all others!!!
Even if you didn't get married...before you make this decision...think about how you really feel about this person..... do you love them??
It is really normal to love someone and think about another because we are human...being loyal is to not get caught up in the new person! Good times come and go...sometimes you have to make them come...not force the excited feelings but certainly work at them.
Do the two of you have children together? Are you doing your part in this relationship as far as household duties...you know maintenance of the home...child rearing and so on? Some of these can factor in to one or both partners feeling like they are bored or discontent!
Ask yourself a couple of questions....
If your partner came to you and told he/she was finished ...how would you feel?
If an officer came to your door and told you that your partner had been killed in an accident...how would you feel?
Can you really imagine your life without this person?
Keep in mind that sparks are what cause a flame to burn...in every long term relationship those flames die down ...it's up to you too recreate that spark...if it's something you really want ..you can rekindle the flame!!
I wish you the very best of luck...I hope you're able to find what you are looking for!!!
2006-11-10 19:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like the honeymoon is over so to speak. Yes dear the fizzle has gone out of the sizzle. Don't despair..."To Thine Own Self Be True". I would separate myself from the current relationship, and not pursue the other until I have taken some serious time to reflect on what's going inside of me. Don't want to get involved so soon with someone else. Spend time with yourself and discover the voice within. Your heart will guide you in the right direction, but you have to be fair okay?
2006-11-10 18:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have been there and it ruined my relationship and the thing is is your just bored with your relationship you want to go out and have fun but still have someone to come home to at night and you cant have it both ways when and if you decide to leave your partner you will be so lonely especially once you try to get something started with someone else because you will realize if was a mistake sometimes your heart does not know what it wants after me and my ex of 3 years broke up i felt like he really was the one but i ruined it for sum fun with someone else who turned out to not be so important now we dont speak and i think about him every day it suck sso whatever you do make sure it is the right chioce for you there are plenty of things you and your sweetheart can do for fun maybe go for a weekend getaway but if you think they are your soulmate you should not be so quick to let it go over someone you have no connection with like your mate but best of luck and take things slow just make sure yuour happy thats really all that matters <3
2006-11-10 19:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure the interest you have in this other person is real, or could it merely be infatuation?
Anyway I believe that you and your boyfriend really need to talk... You've been in a serious relationship for 4 years, now that's really something don't you think ;)
2006-11-10 19:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ AnGeL oF cLaRiTy ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a powerfully sensitive situation. your partner might be holding something from you. sounds like you need more communication. there must be a balance between you and your mate. as far as your other "crush" that's all it is. whatever you do, not let another person come between you and your partner, it is a painful and irreversible mistake.
2006-11-10 18:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by Eryc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if u really love sombody and i maen really love them I belive that u can never fall out of love wit them
2006-11-10 18:51:48 · answer #7 · answered by crybaby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should think very well before leaving your current bf .. you may regret it later .. you should talk to him about what you want from him
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2006-11-10 18:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by c g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋