ok. please. i need serious answers only. i just found out that my friend was raped by her father a number of times when she was younger. she is my best friend and i cant belive he did this to her. she was never physicaly hurt but she has been with her boyfriend for 2 years and is scared to have sex with him. she doesnt live with her parents anymore and her mom doesnt know about any of this. whats the right thing for me to do? stay out of this? go to the cops and get that asshole in prision, what? someone, anyone i need advice. ive never been in this situation before. he hasnt touched her for about 4 years, is it too late to do anything? she never told anyone except me a few days ago.
2006-11-10 10:23:19 · 4 answers · asked by bar22bie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
can anyone speak from personal experience and tell me what you would want your friend to do if you told her.
* my boyfriend had to have had a reason to tell me right. why wouldnt she tell me all these years and then all of a sudden tell me?
2006-11-10 10:38:51 · update #1
Don't start a fire you will get burned, stay out of it . just be there for your friend. let her do what ever she wants about it , or let her do nothing . it is her choice, be a good friend and don't butt in/ its been 4 years and she hasn't done anything about it ..Its her call...
2006-11-10 10:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE has to be the one to make the complaint against him ... unfortunately, she needs to get some therapy for her sexual issues or she will never be ok about the sex part of her relationship. you are a "hearsay" witness so you aren't the best evidence and you have no direct knowledge, only that she says it happened. if she has other sisters at home, you might want to remind her of that and that they are in danger too, but she either has to tell her mother and/or report her father to the police ... there is nothing you can do directly without winding up out in the cold by your friemd and her family ... ask her what she wants to do about it and keep the dialog going with her about this
2006-11-11 06:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i certianly would report this to police, you don't mention if she has other sisters at home who might be in danger as well.,so call police , then get your friend into see someone, totalk about this, she needs help,before she can sleep with anyone else. I know about this , It happened to me many years ago, I got help and this worked. Your friend has got know this was not her fault......
2006-11-10 18:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by meerkat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not sit down with her and convince her that she really needs to report this and to bring it to her mother's attention also. Whether of not her mother will believe her is another story but regardless, her mother needs to know. Obviously this is affecting your friend so i would advise her to get counseling to deal with this. If she doesnt seek counseling it could affect her for years and years. He is one sick puppy and needs to be reported.......remind her that as long as it isnt reported he is a threat to any young girl.........good luck to you and your friend
2006-11-10 18:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋