And why so? Only answer if your best friend is a guy. Do you feel that you canot be yourself with both of them if they are both there?
2006-11-10 10:19:37 · 23 answers · asked by flaminious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend is my best friend. He and I have been together for nearly 4 yrs. He was there when I was so severely injured that I could not do anything and I mean anything for myself. He has been there for my kids, he allows me to be who I am and not have to put on a show for him and be who he wants me to be. I can talk to him about anything and he will always listen. He does not judge me, he does not get mad at me, he does not cheat on me and I dont cheat on him. He allowed me to mourn the death of my husband and was there every step of the way. I love this man to death. He would give his life for me and I for him. He had a really bad marriage and my first marriage ended in divorce and my second my husband died, we do not plan on getting married but if it is meant to be then it will happen. He is my very best friend, my lover, my boyfriend, my life.
2006-11-10 10:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by miamac49616 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, a best friend is the person you can turn to no matter what happens-good, bad and/or ugly. If your boyfriend isn't the person you can do that with, then move on. Granted, having a male best friend can be a little weird sometimes. One of my best friends was male, and I certainly didn't talk to him about the more intimate parts of my dating problems. I always felt a little weird when my boyfriend (now husband) and my best friend were in the room. I think it was because I knew that my best friend knew more about me (again, the good, bad and/or ugly) than my boyfriend did.
Either way, I hope your boyfriend can eventually be a good friend to you as well.
2006-11-10 18:27:05 · answer #2 · answered by SuzeY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel because its hard to have a best friends and a boyfriend at the same time. They both want your attention and it drives you crazy because u feel you have to choose... you DONT have to choose who is more important at all try and spend time with each of them and even chill all together sumtimes... but let you best friend know that there will be times when you and your man need to " be alone".... what ever you do DONT pick one over the other ive done it and its blown up in my face ;)
2006-11-10 18:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is my best friend. I also have two very close friends one is a guy and one is a female, they are both single. We talk all the time, but they know that my husband comes first, and when they are in relationships I understand that their significant other comes first.
2006-11-10 18:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best friend. Or boyfriend?
Probably the two most important people on earth to a human being.
Whoever is in more trouble, you go to their aid. AND if you cant be yourself when they are there, thy dont deserve those titles.
2006-11-10 18:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boyfriend is more important and any best friend male/female would understand that. Why can't you be yourself with either?, you have real problems.
2006-11-10 18:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by lara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't have a boyfriend, but if I did (like THAT'LL ever happen), he and my best guy friend (who's gay) would probably have equal importance to me. Of course, I might feel more comfortable around my friend.
2006-11-10 19:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that it depends on how long you and your best friend have been friends and how long you and you boyfriend been together. I have been with my mine for four years and I wouldn't change that for anything! But in the being of are relationship my bestfriend would come first!
2006-11-10 18:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by Candy_20 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have to choose between two, then you are not important as a person. you suck as a friend. if you were best friends with a guy or girl before meeting your bf, you dont choose, but if your friend did something disrespectful to you or said something about him, then that is something you need to decide. bf's come and go, but so do friends. its all a stupid lesson in life that everyone makes.
2006-11-10 18:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a perfect question for me to answer.
i am in a situation where my friends think i am ditching them all the time, i spend all my time with my boyfriend, and my friends and I are starting to seperate.
I can't really help this problem, because I dont want to spend time with my friends right now, I want to waste my life with my boyfriend.
But you really should be hanging out with your friends, because if your boyfriend leaves you for any reason, you're friends aren't going to forgive you just like that.
2006-11-10 18:22:51 · answer #10 · answered by Kaitlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋