My nephew has been "signed" over to my parents and they haven't been taking care of him, I have, and I already got a child that's under the age of 1 and I don't think I can handle 2 of them (he's three months and she's 1 and a half months)anymore, and I've already talked to my parents and they said they weren't going to do it, and my brother is useless for this type of thang. I have work, and collage to tend to, and I can't afford to have two kids in child day care, and my professers won't let me have them in class unless they are sick, and I really don't want to leave them with my boyfriend, he has a job too. What to do? help, I think I'm going to have an other nervous break down. I already had one, I just yelled at people, even people I didn't know. I'm not giving him up for addoption, he needs me to much.....
2006-11-10 10:09:39 · 23 answers · asked by lill_angel_07_88 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The mom ran off and I don't know where she is, and she has no clue who the dad is,
he raped her.
2006-11-10 12:10:15 · update #1
The mom ran off and I don't know where she is, and she has no clue who the dad is,
he raped her.
2006-11-10 12:10:16 · update #2
You need to take your parents and sibling who had the child to court for child support. Why would your parents accept responsibility for the child if they didn't want to look after him> I suggest you just pack him up and drop him in your mom's arms and leave, telling her you will only look after him on dayswhen you aren't working or in class. Or, if you are in Calgary, I'll babysit him for $25 a day if you promise to take him home each night.
2006-11-10 10:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about your area but here you can get child care assistance to help with the children. Let your parents know that you are trying to handle your business and you can't keep your nephew that often. Where is the child's mom and dad? Can they keep him while you are at work or school and you get him when you are through for the day? I am sorry that you are going through this but I am quite sure that there is someone that can help you.
2006-11-10 18:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by Tanya D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath, sit everyone down in your family and tell them you are doing your job with your child and although you can understand the situation, you do not nor cannot handle the nephew. Chick, sometimes if you will let them, people will walk all over you. If you cannot handle it, say so, let them know, then they will have to do it themselves. Where is the mother and father for the nephew? How dire is that situation?
Hang in there!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-10 18:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by newcovenant0 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said you refuse to give him up for adoption because he needs you too much. He needs an overwhelmed, unwed mother who is struggling through college and has had past mental health issues with fear of another occurance?????? Sounds mighty selfish. This child needs parents, even foster parents, who are willing and very able to make all necessary sacrifices for him. He needs stability and to feel and BE wanted. Not thrown around to a warm body for whom it's convenient. Call your local DFCS and get him placed in a loving home. It is the most honorable and loving thing you can do.
2006-11-10 18:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by adoptivemomx2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this is what u do take a few days off of work and collage find a nanny. if u cant get a nanny have a friend watch them for a while. then go out and find a nanny (so u dont have to keep giving your kids to your friend) still cant find a nanny get a teenage girl/boy who wont care. have them babysit for a week or two. keep looking for a nanny. still cant find one. go to friend or babysiter. (i can baby sit. i do it all the time.) oh ask your boyfriend to ask his parents to babysit. that would be good. ask friends and family if they know anyone who knows a nanny. just keep waiting dont give up. ok? your nephew needs you. your luck will change around.
2006-11-10 18:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by Willie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a few babysitters and have them switch every other week.
I'm sorry, I just have to ask: What reason in hell do your parents have that they can't help out? You know what, get that kid in the car, drive over to your parent's house, and hand over the kid to them. He was signed over to them, and he is their responsibility until somebody can figure out what to do with him. I'm guessing your parents are old, retired, and are at home all day not doing anything like most retired people are. The least they could do is care for their grandchild for a little while until the situation is dealt with. My parents would be the first ones to take in one of their grandchildren if they were in this situation..I feel totally sorry that some people are that selfish and self-involved that they won't even help out their own grandchild.
2006-11-10 18:14:38 · answer #6 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why did your parents except custody, if they weren't going to care for the child? sounds like you need to find someone who can help you get your parents to help out. Do you have any other relatives in the area that might talk to them or help you with the kids? I wish you the best of luck
2006-11-10 18:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by Kismitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you don't want to give him up for adoption and their is no one else in the family will to help....and he is not "signed" over to you. You really only have one choice and thats to take care of him yourself, try finding a daycare for him that is resonable. Since, he is not signed over to you can't claim him for help as far as getting state aide. However, if your parents income isn't that great and they both work, they might be able to. Your between a rock and hard spot and forcing your parents to help you to help him is about the only chance you have. You seem to be a strong mother! You will be able to fix it, I'm sure of that!
2006-11-10 18:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by be happier own a pitbull 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the child should be your parents problem financially..they are getting child support for him. It isn't up to you. I know you feel the baby needs you but you have enough on your plate...your only choices are quit school and raise the kids on welfare or go to school and ask your parents to help out temporarily so you won't be a burden to anyone later.
2006-11-10 18:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
where are the child parents? are they helping financially? if not, they should be and if they dont, seek help from someone who will make them pay for thier responsibilities, or someone that will help you financially and use that money for daycare and possibly a part time mommys helper.....you could also enlist the help of neighbors and other family to help care for the child....(of course use caution WHO you leave the child with), maybe even your local church or the pastor would have a few ideas?.........good luck, dear.....
2006-11-10 18:16:33 · answer #10 · answered by tanny_fanny2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋