my live in bf of 3yrs is addicted to the computer game warcraft?

Question

he always liked computer games but i never knew how bad till he moved in with me or maybe i just overlooked it.he comes home from work and goes straight for the computer and stays there till late at night.on the weekends he plays late then sleeps in till 1 or 2 in the afternoon.he has a long list of online friends that he plays with.whenever i manage to beg him to go out you can tell hes only doing it to make me happy.i went out and got the game just so we can have some time together.ladies would you put up with this?oh hes not 18 yrs old but 37 yrs old divorced dad.when he has his child over hes not as bad

Answer 1

dr phil?

Answer 2

These video games are the newest addition.
My partner and I have World of Warcraft, also. We are both very, very seasoned players and we're both 37, also. We've played enough to have 3 top level characters and many, many in their lvl 50's.

I was brought into it when my honey got hooked. It's a very interesting game, but it does tend to take up a lot of our time. The relationships you make with your guild can feel as real as those you have with your next door neighbor.

I'm afraid you have only 2 choices here. Get him out (either by counseling or find a new hobby for both of you that you BOTH enjoy a lot) or get in there with him.

Incidentally, if you decide to get in there with him, and you happen to play on Shadowsong, look me up;
Enoch - Undead Priest
Boko - Orc Warlock
Angakut - Tauren Shaman
... that is, unless you're playing the alliance side of things, in which case you can look up Mocarah - Night Elf Rogue. I'd be happy to help you level a character so you can join your hubby in his realm for a while without feeling like you've been left behind. Just go to a mailbox and send me a letter - mention yahoo answers and I should remember. :-)

Answer 3

Yes, he is meeting all the criteria of addiction. There are several Elders within the game that have left because of the ongoing problem. WOW can't be beat, you can only gain skill and rise upward, yet never WIN in the sense of the word. This is by design and is how most MMORPGs are structured. WOW just happens to be VERY nicely structured to hook even a casual player. See my source for professional expertise as well. My advice would be to have him seek help, but he may not admit there is a real problem. The solution that worked for me was I burned my game literally. Took a propane torch and burned the CD & CD Keycode on a stoneware plate. I saw the problem it was causing me. Find a way to save his life and breathe fresh air again. Best of luck!

Answer 4

Yikes, I've heard that game is the most addictive game ever...:) I think you should try sitting him down and explaining how you feel in a nonjudgmental way. If you're feeling neglected then obviously that's a problem. If he pays attention to what you say and seems to be making an effort to change then that's great, but if he'd still rather play the game than hang out with you I'd move on.

Answer 5

You are right when you call it an "addiction." That being said, no you cannot tolerate this. He needs to get help to get over this. It's like drinking too much, smoking too much, or anything else too much. It's not healthy. He is substituting life in an imaginary world to real life! That's dangerous. Tell him it's not healthy and that you can't have a life with a man who is constantly in a fantasy world. A few hours a week playing the game is one thing...to live in that world every minute he isn't working or sleeping cuts you out entirely. Not good. It's a sickness. Help him get well, or kick him out and go find a man who is interested in YOU. You deserve that.

Answer 6

if this is what makes him happy, then why not try getting into the game too...maybe one day when he is playing walk in some sexy linegure and see how he actsXD i dunno what to say...maybe this just isn´t working out, but don´t try and take this game away from him...this seems to be something he really enjoys...i mean, if he prefers to play with his friends online rather than in "real life" then it isn´t really any different...i mean, this makes him happy and of course so do you...try to work things out around his time with his game/friends and if u just can´t work things out, then maybe it´s just time to find someone else...i´m sure there is a guy who will be what u want and i am sure there is a girl out there who will just sit around playing WarCraft with him all day and be happy as a lark sitting side by side playing online together:) don´t worry.:) it´s his hobby.

Answer 7

My wife has the same issue with me. I like to spend all my spare time playing World of Warcraft also.

You should let him know how much time per day you expect him to be doing things with you.

Why do you want to control what he does with his free time? Does he tell you what to do with yours?

Maybe you should quit being such a controlling ....

You always have the option of leaving if you are dissatisfied.

Answer 8

Don't put up with it. I wouldn't even bother to give him the "delete your account or move out" ultimatum. First because it's unfair, second because he'll surely choose WoW anyway, assuming he can find somewhere else to live.

Just realize you can probably do better.

MMORPG addicts are pathetic, I've seen friends completely lost into these games.

Answer 9

Uh you need to make him to stop playing this game. Its extremely addicting, I know several people that have dropped out of school because of it. Wonder how he got divorced =/