how would you feel?

Question

if you sister did not ask you to be in her lineup? but she asked the other sister?

Answer 1

I'd be a little offended naturally, but you need to talk to her first before jumping to conclusions. How close are you two? Have you had some sort of arguement recently? Are she and the other sisters closer? Do you have money problems she is aware of therefore decided not to ask? Lots of things to consider.

Answer 2

Awe goodness, I'd feel terrible! I think I would have a hard time asking why I wasn't asked too. I know it sounds like really good advice to go to your sister, have a sit down and inquire why she didn't ask you, but that's a lot harder than it sounds. I think I may say something to my Mom, get her opinion on it. Maybe there was a reason behind it that I'm not aware of it. But it's probably a good idea to get some kinda closure about it before the actual wedding, cause sister or not. I'd have an itch to go to the wedding in a flaming red short as hell dress and be the spectacle s*lut.... that may just be the hidden inside desire, I can't actually see myself doing this, lol... but it would be the mean thought I would have!

Good luck! :) :P

Answer 3

It depends on the circumstances - and on the family. I am the oldest of 6 girls. We were kind of born in "sets" - I was 18 when I got married and my sisters were 17, 14(twins), 11 and 10. Obviously, that would be to much for one wedding party - but the sister closest to my age and I are very close and so I asked her to be my Maid Of Honor.

Answer 4

Uh, probably hurt. But it depends on how close you all are. Does she spend a lot more time with the other sister? Do you live away from her now? But still - a sister is a sister..... Ask her about it.

Answer 5

I wouldn't be offended at all. In fact when my brother got married our youngest sister was in the bridal party and I was not. Big deal.

Instead I did a reading at their wedding. Again big deal. All I cared about was that my brother was happy.

Answer 6

I'd be glad. Then I wouldn't have had to put on that stupid dress, wore makeup getting lip gloss on your dress because you've never worn makeup before or pantyhose that rode up my butt, almost trip down the aisle because Ive never worn heels before. So I guess all in all I would have been better off. But you probably wear makeup and dresses and other such stuff. I personally wouldn't worry about it.

Answer 7

I would be very hurt, but I'm sure there is a reason for why she did this. I would talk to her and tell her how you feel; maybe she didn't want to stress you with the responsibilities, or financial aspects of being a BM.

But remember it's *her* wedding so even if you don't like it, try to respect her wishes. :)

Answer 8

That's crappy.

I am getting married soon and I didn't ask any of my sisters to be in it so I wouldn't be choosy. There are 8 of them, and that's just too much!

Talk to her about it, tell her that it hurt you. Ask to play a small role in the wedding if possible like attendance book assistant or usher or something.

Definately say something. I would feel awful.

Answer 9

Wow. No doubt you are feeling very hurt. At least that's how I would feel. What are the circumstances? Do you live far away, that perhaps she was only trying to spare you the expense? Still, that has to smart.

Answer 10

I would ask my sister why and then go from there