My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and he has been acting very distant towards me and I'm nagging him to let me know what is wrong--well it turns out he feels like I am smothering him, blah blah blah-he is constantly biting my head off and being inconsiderate-he can't even find time to say hello or smile at me when I get home from working all day.. should I just back off or tell him I'm through. I feel like if we don't try to work it out then it will just go down the drain but when I try to talk to him about it he just gets pissed
2006-11-10 09:23:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also I don't understand how he can be so cold hearted..he upsets sometimes and he doesn't evn care-I know if I saw him crying I would def. go to him...he just keeps watching t.v
2006-11-10 09:43:21 · update #1
stop nagging him leave him alone hes a guy chances are he will get over it and if he doesnt maybe its time to break up with him
2006-11-10 09:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by THAT GIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it up - if he refuses to talk to you about it also is sending the message that he's not willing to work things out, or change. You deserve better treatment. That'll also give him the time to rethink his feelings and maybe not take you for granted. If he doesn't come back then maybe it wasn't meant to be and there most definately is someone else out there better for you. You may not think so at first but later you'll look back and remember how he was with you and you'll realize that leaving the relationship was the best thing that could've happened to you.
2006-11-10 17:48:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sea -N-Sun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't 'nag' him when it seems like something is wrong. Guys don't typically open up about their feelings so quickly, and your interest may seem like nagging to him. If he refuses to communicate, perhaps you should dump him. Why should YOU end up in therapy when HE'S the one who needs it! We all have problems that stress us, but a lover should not be a punching bag. You deserve to be happy, so if this guy can't appreciate what he's got in you, maybe he'll be sorry when you've found someone new.
2006-11-10 17:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space to figure out what he wants. He may feel pressured into moving the relationship to the next level and he is scared and confused. Do not nag. That is going to get you nowhere. If you live together, maybe one of you should consider moving out for awhile.
2006-11-10 17:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how hard it is to do but the best thing would be for you to back off for now and just give him some space, I know that will probably drive you nuts waiting but will be worth it... Then once you do after he chills out, he'll talk to you and yous will work it out. But you have to really do it completely in order for it to really work... Pushing any further will only make things worse for yous, so just give him sometime and as long as he needs to get over the stuff in his head...
2006-11-10 17:31:03 · answer #5 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't talk to him. Most men don't want to anything to do with anyone for the first hour or two when they get home. Women tend to want to talk about their day, yada yada....
Just give him space. Maybe take a walk afterwork and leave him be. Go in another room and nap or talk to a girlfriend. When he's feeling more social he'll come to you. Find something else to do. :)
2006-11-10 17:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by Niko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's sending you a not-so-subtle hint that he wants to end the relationship, but he isn't brave enough to just come out and say it. So he continues to be rude, probably hoping you will end it. Life is too short to waste your energy trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.
2006-11-10 17:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to give him some space to think things through unlike women Men tend to need to think things through on their own and if they want to share fine but it sounds like he is already disrespecting you so let him go and then he can get his space and you can move on to someone better
2006-11-10 17:26:33 · answer #8 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time for this act to end.... move on to scene 2 girl.
2006-11-10 17:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to back off or he will run away
2006-11-10 17:39:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋