2006-11-10 09:13:08 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Lets see... I'm going to guess that they pay for the gas in the car to get you places... that they pay for the phone, food, rent, clothes, your spending money/allowance/those extra few bucks you ask for to go out on the weekends... that they make you study for your tests at school and make you do your homework and assignments before you can go out and have fun... that they ground you or punish you in some way if you disobey their rules... that they give you a curfew when you go out at night.
Am I right?
Well... lets break this down.... your question was how to deal with a parent who doesn't listen to the child.
You are under 18... you live in their house which is paid for and maintained by their hard earned money. You are their child, for whom they watch out for, care for when sick, comfort when upset and celebrate accomplishments with.
Has it occured to you that your parents may just have your best interests at heart? Possibly even enough that they will make sure you are safe and not making dumb desicions???
Perhaps your parents don't want you ending up a teen mom, or dropping out of high school and not going to university or college. Perhaps your parents want to keep you healthy and whole and intact.
How terrible. And how strict.
Here's my advice- LISTEN TO THEM. Earn their respect and trust, so that you have a right to argue about things. Your parents love you enough to try to keep you safe.
Honestly, you've got some great parents it sounds like- be grateful for everything they give you and don't think that you are in charge, because YOU AREN'T.
2006-11-10 09:23:07 · answer #1 · answered by kiwi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deal.
Look at your friends who have "cool" parents, are they happy?
I had/have strict parents and I know I am a better person for it.
Everytime my mom wouldn't let me do something or yelled at me (which I found ridiculous) I knew in the back of my mind she was right.
Do not fool yourself into thinking your parents don't know what is best, they probabaly do.
Try asking for more trust, or how you could earn additional trust and you parents might see a level of maturity they hadn't before. Then they may feel more comfortable easing up on you.
Just try to be sincer. If you ask for/earn trust then do something horrible, YOU WILL LOOSE WHAT YOU EARNED AND THEN SOME.
2006-11-10 09:18:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are their dependent, you need to go along with their rules (unless you are being abused, then tell the authorities). You know, parents are usually strict because they love you and are worried about you. They know there are bad things out there and want to protect you.
If you want to do something that you TRULY think is reasonable to most parents, perhaps ask for a meeting with the parent and calmly state what you would like to do and why you think it will be OK for them to allow it.
I was strict with my daughter - she didn't fight me too much about it, but we occasionally butted heads. Now that she is a mother, she says she will probably be almost as strict as I was.
2006-11-10 09:17:22 · answer #3 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parent is probably doing what they think is best for you.
Without arguing, yelling, etc., try to sit down with them and have a real discussion. Communicate, and talk about what's on your mind. Also keep their viewpoint in mind. Their job is to take care of you, keep you safe, and help you become a well-balanced adult. Chances are, what you see as strict they see as necessary. Parents sometimes seem harsh, when in hindsight they're doing what is best for you at the time. Learn to express yourself to them better, while keeping in mind that they really do care about your well-being.
2006-11-10 09:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by Big G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a parental point of view, parents are strict, normally, for very good reasons. Children and teens may not SEE or understand the reasons, but they're there, and usually for your safety and well being.
Talk to your parent, make sure you understand why they are doing what they're doing, and ride it out. Soon enough you'll have kids of your own and understand all too well.
2006-11-10 09:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by Jaded 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something for you to think about......... My son recently thanked me for being strict on him when he was a child. He is now 22, married and has a son of his own. He told me that there were a lot of things he could have very easily gotten in to that might have really messed him up. Just be thankful that you have someone that cares enough for you to try too bring you up right.
2006-11-10 09:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by kstfas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents are like you, they always want to be right 24/7. Most of the time they are, you just dont realize that yet cause you are too young. But allow them to be your parents, in a few years you will realize its all for your own good. It may even take 10 years for you to realize it.
2006-11-10 09:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by KC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the Bible says, "Children obey your parents" and "Honour thy mother and father". Depending on your age, you could ask them for a serious sit down chat in order to go over their rules. They might just be prepared to compromise or be more flexible.
2006-11-10 09:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by utuseclocal483 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to stay calm and reason with them. They love you and just don't want anything to happen to you. Earn their respect. Good Luck! Remember that it isn't easy being the parent either.
2006-11-10 09:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by beaniesue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "they don't listen" I thought it was suppose to be the other way around.
What is their problem, are they stick in the religious sense or are they just jerks?
Talk to them, maybe they have their reasons.
2006-11-10 09:16:52 · answer #10 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋