My boyfriend and I have dated for about 4 months.I have been the aggressor mostly in this relationship asking him over or asking if I can come over.When I have asked him about this he says he don't mind.Thing is two times this week when I have asked him he had said no that he wanted to get some things done around the house.I took this as him saying to back off so I did.Well he ended up text messaging me and calling me the next day saying he missed me.When I asked him what he was doing on his day off he was like hoping I can come and see you.He came out and asked without me asking if he could go ahead and come out the next day and I said sure.Then when he came out the next day and he asked if I wanted to come out and I said yes and he was like, you know you can ask me too.This morning when I asked him if he wanted to come out he said that he wanted to stay in and read.What does he mean by acting this way?Does he really not mind me be aggressive and just wants alone time sometimes?
2006-11-10 08:54:00 · 6 answers · asked by bettyboopin3_1976_23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is very common male behavior. Men need their space. You were right to pick up on his signals and give him the space. However, once guys get enough 'space', then they want female company again.
Follow your instincts which appear to be very healthy. Give him space when he wants it and wait for him to come to you.
The real question is, are you happy with how much time he wants to spend with you? or is this back and forth pattern too much of a bother for you? He may grow out of it, as he becomes more familiar with your company. But he may not. Guys are all different in how much time they want to spend with their partner. The trick is to find a guy who wants to spend as much time with you, as you want to spend with him.
2006-11-10 09:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by TechnoRat60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he might just want to be alone that how i am or maybe he confuse and he doesn't want to hurt you i just say right now it's only been 4mos stick it out for now it takes time to get close i known my boyfriend for 4 yrs now we been dating for 2 years n we r now just starting to like being with each other it sounds dum but i guess u can know you are meant for a person it just takes a while to know i hope i helped i and not made it worst.
2006-11-10 17:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by DeDe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a classic example of how a majority of women read too much into things. It means he wants to just hangout alone. Don't take it so personal.
2006-11-10 16:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have no idea what he means. you should ask him. just tell him that you have been noticing that his behavior has been funny lately and you would like to know why. it's probably all just a misunderstanding.
2006-11-10 16:57:17 · answer #4 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being difficult and is playing you along . but he means no harm. he is not sure what he wants , be patient and he will get over his being difficult.
2006-11-10 16:58:18 · answer #5 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He is trying to tell you that he thinks it should be HIS idea to get together. That you two should get together when its convenient for HIM.
2006-11-10 16:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋