I can ask her a simple question or just tell her i like her shirt and every response is sarcastic and rude. I have tried punishing her like taking away computer time and her tv. I have sat down by her and asked her whats the matter and she tells me she is fine. I just dont know what to do and its hurting me and its even hard to be around her sometimes.Any feedback... tyvm
2006-11-10 08:45:47 · 12 answers · asked by Criscat 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Unfortunately that sounds like normal adolescent behavior. At this age, children start to assert their independence and will argue with you just for the sake of arguing.
The only thing you can do is stay calm (go for a walk, count to 10, etc if she really stresses you out)...and wait for it to pass.
If her behavior gets out of hand you might need to consider therapy but what you described sounds normal.
2006-11-10 08:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is completely normal, 'tho annoying and frustrating of course!
She is going through the phase which may, or may not, last awhile. My fifteen year old daughter still has her moments when she feels I am totally without a clue and useless.
I'm not sure that taking away things works in this case. Just tell her that you don't appreciate being spoken to that way, and that if she can't be civil with you, you'd rather she say nothing at all.
Tell her that you have feelings, too, and that you don't appreciate them being hurt.
Yelling, excessive questioning when she's in that mood, and arguing w/her won't make the situation better, as I'm sure you know already.
Save the taking away of computer time/t.v. for other problems.
2006-11-10 08:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a teen now. You're a parent of an teen. I'm not a parent, but by looking at this sectiin, it is just full of obnoxious teens. You should be able to stick it to her. She's not older than you. If she acts like a brat, be sure to tell her she needs to stop what she's doing and take a good look at who's she's giving an attitude to. If she continues. No computer, TV, music, or friends for 3 days. But, she's a teen. A girl one at that! It'll boil over
2016-03-28 01:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two daughters in the beginning of their teenage years...and a third in the wings. I have decided to pick my battles. I can handle the little sarcastic remarks...it's the refusing to do their chores or telling me NO that sets me off. And you know I have one that just has no idea when to back off and shut up until I am absolutely crazed!!
All I can tell you is to not take things too personally. Frankly most teenagers wouldn't be happy if they were "hung with a new rope" as my gram used to say. There is hope...someday they won't be towers of screaming hormones and we'll be able to laugh and talk about these traumatic, drama filled years. Until then...take a deep breath, enforce your rules, hold them responsible for their actions and pray alot. Good luck!! I think we all need some....and maybe a stiff drink (lol)!!!
2006-11-10 09:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first, that's about the age when girls become completely hateful. It is a very common thing. The only real things you can do are lead by example with a cheery disposition and reaction to things and when she does respond negatively, have her stop and re-evaluate the situation and come up with a more positive response. After enough times of changing the thought process, she may begin to have these positive responses herself.
Most of all, you can't take it personally. Adolescent girls are little witches. It's just a phase and the raging hormones. Just ask my mom ; )
2006-11-10 08:57:40 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start a quarter bank and make her add a quarter every time she smarts off or make her do extra chores. or make her read a story about a bad littel girl who was mean and didn't appreciate her mother. it could also be that her friends are mean and she is picking up bad habits. maybe grounding her from her friends will help or taking her to join a group of children outside of her normal crowd at big brothers or big sisters organizations. maybe take her to do charity work for the elderly.
that is about the age to start becoming a smart alec. it gets worse in the teenage years, but believe it or not, they grow out of it and i have seen some mean kids turn into saints the day 18 or 19 came. children are strange like that.
2006-11-10 08:55:23 · answer #6 · answered by susan t 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best thing to do for now, is try to cope with her.
It's a stage she's going through. If you have enough
patience you can try to ignore her behavior, I know it's hard.
Don't answer her questions until she has a change of
attitude..
If this all fails you can turn her over you knee for
a old-fashioned attitude adjustment.
2006-11-13 05:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by Carla S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she says a rude remark say "Would you like to repeat that?" ans if she does say "I am going to spank you." Go to your room and before you spank tell her why she is being punished in this way. Tell her that you are her mother and you deserve love and respect from her because you brought her into this world. After you spank her there shouldn't be any more probs.
2006-11-10 08:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. A-Rod 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's practicing to be a teenager. Only 7 years to go, then you can throw her out.
2006-11-10 08:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 14 and does the same thing.I tell him "Its not WHAT you say but HOW you say it" that makes me upset.he forgets that and its typical for a teenager to test his/her grounds.remind her of what I mentioned and aske her nicely to think about her response BEFORE she gives it!.....good luck!
2006-11-10 08:54:04 · answer #10 · answered by Missvicki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋