Hi I am 17 years old i will be 18 in february and my problem is I got a Bf and my mum just know about it but my Dad dont. Everytime when i want to meet him i have to lie to my dad that i am going to meet some female friend, but my mum will know about it, that i meet my bf. I dont like it to lie to my dad that i am going some were else while i am going to meet my bf. I dont Know what to do now, He is not living me alone he always have to controle me. He always say that I am alowed to have a bf but i dont beleve him becouse if i tell him that i do have one he will not alow me to go out anymore. please help me what to do please
2006-11-10 08:27:41 · 17 answers · asked by Ram1989 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your dad says that you are allowed to have a boyfriend, why not have a chat with him about it. Don't necessarily tell him that you have a boyfriend, but just mention that there is a boy that like you and you think that he is nice, but he is just a friend. How would he feel if you went on a date with him. Doing it this way you are just testing the water so to speak. Just mention it casually too him, and then leave the situation for a while.
The thing is you don't want your dad to hear about you having a boyfriend some someone else, at least if you start testing the water, its a start to try and gage what your dad's reaction will be
2006-11-10 08:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I think the only solution to your problem is time - you'll just have to grow older, and eventually your dad will have absolutely no input in your decisions whatsoever! You're lucky your mum is on your side and anyway, how do you know your dad is not being truthful when he says you're allowed to have a boyfriend? I think you should remember that you're quite lucky - you have a boyfriend, as well as a dad who loves you and wants to protect you, and a mum who is on your side, allowing you to have a boyfriend and covering for you when you go to meet him. Maybe if you look at all the positives you'll realise your situation is not as bad as you think. I know you might feel a bit guilty, but I'm sure everything will be just fine.
2006-11-10 16:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sinead C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, you dad doesn't like the fact that you are growing up and in a few months he wontbe able to tell you what to do.
He is only really being protective because he knows what boys where like at your age and he just doesn't want you getting hurt.
Don't be too hard on him, he loves you, he's your dad...sit down and talk to him, to ease the tension you could even bring your bf over to meet your parents...once your dad knows this guy, he should slacken off a bit...as long as he likes him that is :), just tell your dad to give this guy a chance.
2006-11-10 17:19:03 · answer #3 · answered by debs1701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your mom first, then see what happens. With your mom's help...your dad might listen to you better. You are just thinking that he won't listen to you but there might be a chance, even it's a very little one. So try doing that first.
If you can wait till you turn 18, that would be the best to talk to him though. You won't be a kid anymore when you are 18 and your life isn't his life, he can't just lock you up. Maybe you'll feel better after you turn that age to stand up for yourself...that's why I suggest this.
Worst case, you can simply move out. It'll be tough since you have to balance the life, work and school(if you are planning to go after you graduate), but it will be worth it. You can show how responsible you are and you'll get to have full control of your life! You can move in with your boy friend if you want to, or simply live by yourself.
I hope you the best. Good luck and take care of yourself! =)
2006-11-10 16:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by Este 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him now or it will drag on and on. Am sure your dad will be fine about it. Just over Protective. That's what dads do. Expect some questions. Probably best to meet your boyfriend during the day. Then progress on from there.
2006-11-10 17:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by whatsinaname58 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your dad the truth.. That you have met this amazing guy and you 2 are dating. If your dad truely cares about ur happiness then he will accept the fact that you are growing up and can have the responsibility of having a relationship.. If he doesn't understand talk to him about how great ur guy is and tell ur dad that he can meet him to see how nice he really is
2006-11-10 16:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by UrSecretLover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're 17, you're a year above the legal age of consent and are therefore (supposedly) old enough to know your own mind (although it looks like your spelling and grammar suggest you're a lot younger).
Talk to your mum and ask her to speak to your dad about this, maybe he's not as controlling as you think and he will come around to the idea.
2006-11-10 16:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by kpk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is just trying to protect you. Mine says I can't date till I am 16. ugh I am 14 right now (15 in about a month) and he is going threaten my dates.
2006-11-10 16:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a teenager and sometimes some fathers are jus like that he might be protective because he may think you may get pregnant or the boy may hurt your feelings as long as one parent knows the truth then dont tell him
2006-11-10 16:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by Chery 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him. your old enough to make your own decisions. your dad cant keep u wrapped up in cotton wool forever. he is understandably worried. maybe arrange for everyone to meet
ask your mom to talk to him as well
if you lie to him your giving him a perfect reason not to trust you
2006-11-10 16:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋