My gf (ex maybe, I don't even really know) is "taking time for herself" b/c she is burned out. Honestly, she does it to herself in a lot of ways, taking on responsibilities that shouldn't be her concern. She is just too giving of a person. I want to be with her, but she needs to recharge. I have been good about giving her space and will continue. Assuming we may get past this, how in the hell do I get her to give to me? I know it sounds conceited, but it's like this: I want her to give what she can give (and rest assured I'll give plenty to her, too) to me b/c I know what her "limits" are and would never take too much. I guess I want her to change this. And I guess she's got to want to change this first for herself. I am frustrated!
2006-11-10 08:21:47 · 5 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you love a person you have to accept those quirks that drive you crazy, assuming she loves you too. It's just part of that dirty word, compromise. Unfortunately we can't change other people. We can only change our selves to accommodate them. People learn at their own paces. It took me 27 years to realize what i'm telling you. Don't give up on her.
2006-11-10 08:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. Don't be harsh and act like a ******** but don't sugar coat it either. Be blunt and honest. Always ensure that the two of you are communicating. Relationships require three things. Respect, Compromise and Communication. Check if you've done this and then talk to her about it. Tell her how you feel. Everything should work out if you follow the three ingredients.
2006-11-10 16:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy Shi'ite. I am going through the same stuff. Honestly, stay with her. Times will be rough but remember to be there for her. Don't put her problems on yourself. Just really be there for her, but don't sufficate her. It's hard now but go with it and try to talk to her. Heck that what I'm going to try and do tonight with the same problem. Good luck with it and honestly let me know how things go.
ROCK ON!!
2006-11-10 16:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by celloman2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are asking her to change herself; she is a giving person and maybe to a fault. thats her. isnt it one of the attributes that attracted you to her?
give her some time then ask her about the relationship and what you would like more from her.
2006-11-10 16:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have a problem, you're going to have to wait and see if she comes back. It's harsh, but there are other, less overextended chicks in the barn...
2006-11-10 16:24:19 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋