2006-11-10 08:10:48 · 16 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know a parent dying is something that you never get over but you have to start thinking about the time that you are missing with you kids because you are too busy being sad about something thats done. Remember that dying is a part of life, so we need to enjoy it will we still are here instead of dwelling on the past. If you ever feel really down try telling a crazy story about your dad to your kids. That way his memory will still go on even though they never knew him.
2006-11-10 08:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by homie_j 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have made my dad and mom part of the holidays, Dad dressing mom's potatoes salad ect, And talk about the past and sit there pictures out on the table so they are in away i do the same for my son plus i buy gifts for them but i give them away to some one Elsa and tell them how special the gift is because it from my family who has passed it makes the whole holiday go so much better at least for us
2006-11-10 16:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by helen l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not unusual to mourn the ones you lost around the holidays.My Mother was killed back in '99 and I still get into a slump over it
2006-11-10 16:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something with your kids to show them who your dad was. Like if he liked a certain aspect of the holidays then show that to your kids. Tell your kids stories about him and show them pictures. Don't ignore the feelings, 'cause they'll come out to bite you hard when you least expect it. I lost my father around the holidays too and it's a tough time but you know that he wouldn't want you to be bummed. He would want to see you happy with his grandchildren!
2006-11-10 16:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by sarahjaniepoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all think about the people we love who are gone at Holiday time, but give your children the joy of the season in memory of your Dad. Your gift to him would be the joy you are giving his grandchildren and not a sad Mom.
2006-11-10 16:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can give is to remember your father is looking down on you, and would only want you to be happy. Think of your children, and the memories you can give them, especially at this time of year.
2006-11-10 16:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my advice would be don't go into a slup because your children fell it to and don't mean to be speaking ill of your dad but i'm sure he wouldn't like you to be this way either i know what it's like to loose someone around the holiday's but i don't let it get in the way of me moving on with my life and i'll advise you to do the same
2006-11-10 16:16:53 · answer #7 · answered by dan k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas is supposed to be about family. For you it is difficult because of your memories.
Why don't you try to expand your family to make up for your loss. You can contribute to an aid organization like the one below so that you can feel that you are making a difference for other families around the world.
http://www.wvi.org/wvi/home.htm
2006-11-10 16:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by $Sun King$ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have two kids. spend your holidays with them and the rest of your family. it's okay to be sad and miss him, but don't let that control your life. don't forget about him, but put other good things in your mind. like your kids (have fun with them!) and your husband.....im sorry if you don't have one. im just assuming. but yeah. It's not like you can change the past. You can't help his death. This year, unstead of mourning, try something different. go somewhere fun with your family and friends! try hard to get his death off your mind for now. you need to have fun!
2006-11-10 16:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by Alice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable but 21 years ago, common girl, it's history. You must have been little and don't remember him.
Either get out and live life or get help.
2006-11-10 16:14:02 · answer #10 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋