My childhood sucked so badly How do I make my children's unforgettable?

Question

I had the worse childhood and parents. I still do have bad parents, but how do I make my son and daughter childhood the best.

Answer 1

1. By being the best parent that you can be.
2. By learning from your parents' mistakes.
3. Don't try and buy your children's love.
4. Don't try and be their "friend" (you're the parent).
5. Teach them respect, responsibility and tolerance.
6. Take time out for yourself.
7. Spend quality time with each child.
8. Live well, laugh often and love much!

Answer 2

I hear you, and I'm in the same situation. I definitely don't want history to repeat itself. So I try to make every day count. I want my child to enjoy life and being a kid. So I try not to sweat the small stuff and just have fun.
I just want my child and future children to know that I am here for them no matter what. Thats something that I didn't have and still don't to this day. I think it's really important to have that kind of bond with your kids. It's the one thing I wish I had, instead I was always afraid to talk to my parents about anything.
All you can do is try, and I'm sure your children will love you for that.

Answer 3

You don't.

You know what made your childhood so awful, but don't go out of your way to try to make everything memorable for your kids.

You're be amazed as to what will be important to them.

Example: going out at midnight when I was 8 to play in the first snow is the best memory I have from my childhood. We were up late, but we were also having fun with our parents.

Just be a parent to them. Don't try to make up for your childhood by going crazy for your kids. Be realistic.

Answer 4

you'll be most successful if you try to relax and NOT try extra hard to compensate.

firstly because you CANNOT compensate for anything bad that happened in your childhood, that would be a transfer and this is a disease, and it does not work.

secondly because if you try too hard to "compensate", you run a fairly high risk of quickly falling into the scheme of "but I never had a tenth of this/that, so how can you dare to complain?", which may be worse in the end.


So ideally, you should try to empty your head, think of yourself as a newly minted human being, what would you do for your kids, just relax, and don't consciously try to over / underdo it.

If you hesitate, and since you're bound to not feel so secure about what is "right" since you feel you were wronged as a child, then just as yous best friend(s), especially if she(they) have children.

Answer 5

Dont try. You'll just screw it up.
Live you lives with love and family values, and teach your children the importance of family and blood.

You'll end up with spoiled children if you attempt to negate every bad thing from your childhood.

Everybody suffers some sort of horrible maltreatment during their childhood, either at the hand of their parents, or by their parents neglect. It doesnt make it bad or wrong, its part of life, and part of being a parent. No one is perfect.

If you try to set that standard for yourself you will always find yoruself coming short and trying to smoe how make up for that short coming with your kids. Next thing you know you've got children who are so out of control and self centered that you have done them the biggest diservice possible.

I had nothing growing up. I was molested by a cousin, beat up and emotionally scarred every day of school, lost everyone I knew and moved every two years hundreds of miles away, had no heat, ate spam and oatmeal every day all day for months and years.

Butw e had eachother, and I knew my parents loved me, and we were loyal to eachother. It was a VERY strict home I grew up in. But love was always there. We laughed and hugged and played and enjoyed life together.

No one tried to make it a special memory. We just lived like every moment was special.

now we're 1700 miles apart and its like theres nothing between us all. I dont know anyone else who's family is as close as mine.

Answer 6

Sorry that you had such a bad childhood, my only advice would be to think about all the stuff that you think your parents did wrong so you can make it a positive one for your children.

Answer 7

I hear ya... just do the opposite of how your parents did. Be sure to stay involved in their lives and activites. Be UNDERSTANDING! That's a big thing. Give them plenty of love and affection. Take them on family vacations and enjoy being around them. And by all means, I wouldn't allow them around your parents.

Answer 8

Hello!
I think that you should be there for them. Go to all of their shows,games, plays, etc. Also, you should LISTEN to them! Talk to them and be good friends as well as child and parent. Don't pick favorites and always keep them in mind!

Take care!

Answer 9

that's the great thing about being a parent:you can give your children the life you never had and make their lives better. Just love them and they will grow into healthy responsible adults.

Answer 10

Love them and be there for them ,try to be different from you own parents .