most of the time hes just joking, but it hurts my feelings and i havetold him this many times, but he continues to do so. he says its his way of getting my attn......
2006-11-10 08:07:20 · 35 answers · asked by mary j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it really depends on the relationship. i do the same thing to my wife but she knows i'm kidding and she will do it back. also she knows that i'm a show how i feel guy rather than a say how i feel guy. if he still shows 100% how he feels then i dont think its entirely bad, maybe tell him to cut down some but if hes making fun of you and ignoreing you or being distant then there might be a problem. hope it works out, good luck.
2006-11-10 08:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by Ollie B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Number one, dont pay attn to CG he is a spamming @sshole. Dont clikc on any of his links.
Number two, if you have asked him to stop making fun of you and he doesnt , then he doesnt have any respect for your feelings. You need to leave him, and DO NOT take him back, no matter what he says, he will only try to be nice until you are over being mad at him and then will resume acting like a jerk. You can do much better and you deserve better because you actually express your feelings.
2006-11-10 08:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by Thumper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I observed, guy pick on each other relentlessly. So, his teasing probably means he's just really comfortable with you. Girls are harder to read than guys. Maybe he thinks he's just being a silly boy but really upsetting you. Come up with a phrase to say. When he hears it, he'll know you're not in a joking mood and must immediately stop. Something like "Don't be cruel to me." Whenever you say that, he has to stop. If he doesn't respect you enough to stop at that point, then maybe it's a sign that you're not suppose to be with him.
2006-11-10 08:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by ☆skyblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweet heart, it's not fun and games. it has a purpose. which is to break you down so you won't feel like you could be wanted by any one else> it does work, i know i use to be one of those to use this tatic. It works on your self esteam and before long if you allow it to continue you will believe you are what ever he calls you or any thing he says in "jest". it's a mind game and it's abusive. I'd be making steps to the door if he won't respect your request to stop. you don't need that kind of B/F it's your call. be wise. your worth more than that much more
2006-11-10 08:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mary, have you expressed to him that he's hurting your feelings? Communcation is everything you know. Making fun of others is fun to an extent, but only if its a now and then thing. I'm guessing he know it bugs you and thats why he keeps doing it. If this is true, then he's very immature. Have a talk with him and tell him you've had enough and , if he doesn't let up, then leave him.
2006-11-10 08:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it depends on the nature of the "jokes" except for the fact that you've told him it hurts you and he ignores your feelings. If he is belittling and demeaning you, it's called abuse. A person doesn't have to hit you to be abusive. All he's done is chosen a weapon other than fists. I recommend you run fast and far from this lout.
2006-11-10 08:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by SA Writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said.. 'It hurts my feelings'.
You've answered your own question. Is it harmful to the relationship? YES.
He needs to understand how you feel when he does this. Apparently, telling him isn't enough. Come up with a scenario that puts him in the same position and explain it to him. That might help him internalize what you're feeling.
Only when he sees how much damage he's doing will he change.
2006-11-10 08:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is emotional abuse. He is cutting you down to hurt you. You told him to stop and he isn't listening.
Abuse is abuse. If what he does makes you feel bad, whether it's emotional, physical, or sexual, it is wrong and you need to protect yourself and leave him.
Sticking around will not make it get better. It will get worse because your staying tells this clod that his behavior is acceptable and he will keep taking that extra step further just to see how far he can go. Insensitivity can lead to meaner forms of abuse.
Get out now. I had my warning flags, that I didn't listen to, and my first husband ended up nearly killing me. Here are your warning flags. Take them and have a good life.
2006-11-10 08:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many other ways of getting your attention. It's possible that he feels insecure and so by putting you down and making fun of you, he feels that he's elevating himself. Frankly, if it bothers you, then if he really cares for you then he would stop. I'd tell him flat out to stop it. If he doesn't, then you need to get a new boyfriend, because he doesn't care for you and you deserve better.
2006-11-10 08:11:19 · answer #9 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if HE is the one with issues. Making yourself feel better by belittling or embarrassing others is a sign of insecurity. If you have spoken to him and he continues this behavior afterward, it might be time to think of a change for you.
2006-11-10 08:09:56 · answer #10 · answered by Rich B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋