I love my family dearly but I can't help thinking that they would be better off without me. I can't do anything right. I just cause problems and make everyone else's life bad. Nothing I say or do is good enough. I'm pathetic and I don't feel as though I deserve to live. I don't want to hurt anyone though and that is why I'm still here. My family doesn't deserve this I know. I can't see any other way out of my pain. I've taken medication and went to therapy but so far nothing has really helped. I don't want to hurt the people I care the most about. Please some advice.
2006-11-10 07:50:06 · 31 answers · asked by Candace B 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Dont kill yourself you are here for a reason. Killing yourself is probably THE most selfish thing you can do. You friends and family love you no matter what you may think. And if for some strange reason they really dont, God loves you and has a plan & purpose for your life.
2006-11-10 07:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Liberty against the NWO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think living is painful, I think dying is even more.
Look, I lost my mom in a car accident four years ago, and although we weren't the best of friends, I am now left with a lifetime of guilt and what ifs. And that was dying in an accident. You would inflict so much hurt on your family than truly imaginable.
I guess I don't really have much advice but that I've benefited from moving a lot throughout my life. As a child it was involuntary and sucked, but as I got older I moved where and when I wanted to. You may go through feeling like you don't know anyone sometimes, but you do get a great sense of accomplishment to step out on your own like that. And we can all benefit from starting over sometimes.
Look, I hope you are able to grow through this time and have the oppurtunity to look back and be glad for saving your own life. There is so much waste of life going on around the world, why should we add to that?
2006-11-10 08:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by mimilala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would your family say if you printed out the paragraph you just wrote and gave it to them? Do you think your Mom brought you into this world so that you would feel like a burden to her? No, sweetie. Your family loves you, very, very much. You know how I know that? Because you're talking about them. A family that didn't care about you wouldn't still be in your life.
You sound confused and hurt and a little frustrated and all of this can be very normal during our pre-teen, teenage years. Trust me, I once felt the same way and I remember feeling very depressed and sad. I grew out of it, just as you will. Sometimes all we need is a little change. Can you get a haircut or put some highlights in? Maybe get some new clothes? I find those things tend to just lift my spirits enough to pull me out of the fog a little. Try that. Ask your Mom to take you and tell her you miss her and want some time with her.
I'm here if you need a friend. kribble2002@yahoo.com
2006-11-10 07:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there;
what ever else you decide to do, don't kill yourself. This life can be very hard and yes it seems the only way out now, but tomorrow is always another day. Do you know anything about depression? your mind is like a lock and key, control by neurotransmitters, when the key no longer fits the lock, depression sets in. Seratonion is a chemical that affects the brain, when the levels are wrong the mind becomes depressed.
my advice is to see a therapist and keep going until he hears you.
there are meds called SSRI (seratonion selective reuptake inhibators) these meds will slowly but surely lift your depression as you medication gets to the right dosage. Some self-esteem courses and returned to school to take courses helped me. NEVER GIVING UP HELPED ME THE MOST. Keep pluggin' away. someone needs you. GOD gives us all a purpose in this life and when you find yours, happiness will grow.
2006-11-10 08:45:59 · answer #4 · answered by marlee h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have felt that way so many times. I felt that nobody in my family loved me and all that i would do was never good enough for them, but when i felt like that i always thought that it would hurt them more if i was to die than what i am putting them through right now. i cant tell you what to do exactly but i think it would be a great idea to tell someone real close to you whether it be a family member, or a friend. Don't go to a doctor cause all that they will give you is medicine and that can make the situation worst. if you need someone to talk to...i am here. another thing you can do is find something that you enjoy doing and make it a hobby. whenever you are feeling suicidal just go to your hobby. That helped me. i would go play basketball. you can also start a journal and write all of your feelings and frustrations in it to get everything out. SUICIDE IS NOT THE ANSWER TO YOUR PROBLEMS. HOPE this helps you.
2006-11-10 08:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by huerita2005 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't remember where I heard it but it's still pretty good advice. Killing yourself is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Whatever trouble you think you are causing your family will only multiply if you kill yourself. Push past the pain of today and think of the future. Think of your future spouse, your future children. You have a bright future, you can be anything you want if you put your time and talent towards your goals. Also, I know it sounds trite but please give Christianity a try. God made everyone for a purpose and He gave everyone specific gifts to use. The Bible says weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning. You are going through your night right now but there will be a dawn.
2006-11-10 07:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by Cybeq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Candace
I am an older man , father of three and have gone through many problems. At 21 I stood up for my religious beliefs and went to prison in the USA and many times while there I faced situations that I could not control (came close to being raped) but if nothing else I did learn that problems arise and I devolved the belief of five years. If a problem will not be a problem in five years then it is not really a major problem, if it will be a problem in five years then we need to address it and figure out how to solve it.
But not knowing your situation it is hard to help, your family should come to your aid if you ask.
No one who can feel as much love of family as you show is pathetic, and you are intelligent as your question is well thought out and expressed.
2006-11-10 08:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by Swingstage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what could I say except look at all the people here who have taken time out of their day for you. Doesn't that show you how much you mean to even perfect strangers? We are all so worried about you and are begging you to find help and live a long life. I can't even imagine how much you mean to your family, friends, and people you have just met.
Live honey live. We need you to.
Get some more help, talk to others, don't give up.
We're not giving up on you.
I'm sure you e-mail any one of us and we'll talk to you. I know I will.
Life is tough at times, but it always gets better. This is a temporary state of mind you are in.
2006-11-10 08:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by BIZ Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point is , if you do kill yourself, it's gonna hurt the people around you. If you've been on meds and have went to therepy your either holding on to something that your not ready to share with anyone yet thats causing you pain, or you need to sign yourself into a mental facility.... as hard as it is, take it from someone who has been in your shoes, in the end death shouldnt be your choice, option, or last resort...... thats what life is for and the longer you live it, the more valuable it turns out to be..... so get help even if it hurts to ask, that needs to be your first step.
2006-11-10 08:02:10 · answer #9 · answered by sheastar2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. The meds don't cure anything, they just keep the symptoms from being as bad - but that's enough sometimes to keep you going , so keep taking them. Therapy can help - but onlyif you give it time to work.
There is no miracle pill. There's only the hard work of healing, and it's something that you need to keep working at. Hold on to the fact that your family loves you. They obviously are seeing something in you that you can't see, and you need to remember that you're not able to see yourself objectively right now.
Keep holding on. Keep working towards the day when you can look yourself in the mirror and like who you see. It just takes time.
2006-11-10 07:55:29 · answer #10 · answered by triviatm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋