One of my parents is realy strict. It's like they don't want me to grow up. Im at the age where I need to grow up a little. What should I do?
2006-11-10 07:24:39 · 20 answers · asked by Evenlybroken 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe try reasoning with them like an adult.
2006-11-10 07:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit them both down and have a talk. Tell the strict one that you are growing up whether they like it or not (do not be disrespectful, this will just cause problems). Have them explain why they are so tight with the way they treat you. Ask them if they don't trust you. (ask other related questions as well) When having this talk, point out examples of when they were being to strict. If they choose to let you have more freedom, then wonderful! If they don't, you need to except that. Remember, they raised you and have paid for everything you've eaten or needed until now. (and my guess is that they will continue to for the next few years) Good luck!
2006-11-10 07:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD!!-I'm glad one of your parents is strict--strict is good,its good to see a strict upbringing in today's times of out of control preteens/teens,kids that hang about waiting for violence,stealing cars,wantonly being destructive,knife crime and all manner of other stuff you see on T.V. which people so often complain about. Your parents DO want you to grow,but want you to grow properly,they love you and want you to go through your growing up phase in the best possible way,without being a worry to them-or yourself.You will appreciate this "strictness" one day,when you realise you have had a good upbringing-unlike so many others-you could read HOMIES post-he has a point too!!
2006-11-10 09:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Writing like that is usual on facebook, yet don't be an fool. think of of it this style, you're 14. In around 10 years, you will end college, have a job and each thing (that is that in case you bypass your tests). what's going to you get from going to a boy's abode? i'm 14, too. i understand that is in certainty what all and sundry else is doing and you will possibly get extensive-unfold from it, yet you're nevertheless 14 years previous. stay as a toddler for as long as you are able to through fact you're merely going to become previous. you will on no account be 14 back, and in case you act like a 18 twelve months previous now, you will decrease to rubble tests and something of your existence. i'm getting how mothers and fathers might nicely be finished on, yet once you play with the help of their regulations for in basic terms a sprint, they're going to provide you much greater freedom.
2016-11-23 14:32:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will appreciate them being strict one day! They are just trying to protect you. Talk to them as an adult and ask them for a bit more freedom. You are their little girl and that will never change but respect and listen to them, they are older and wiser and was once young! It takes a lot patience from both ends!
Good Luck!
2006-11-10 07:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by Yasmin76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk things out with them and remind them that if they were effective parents they would not be unsure about you. Part of feeling good about your parenting abilities is the amount of trust you place in your children. Open conversations about all parts of life encourage better understanding and often lead to more freedom for the youngster.
2006-11-10 07:27:38 · answer #6 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you would like to do something that they are too scared to let you do have good reasons to plead your case. Most of the time parents are scared to let go. Assure them that letting you do certain things is not going to change who you are and how you act. If you can't prove to them ask why they cannot trust you to make educated decisions and when they answer remind then that you are their child and they taught you right from wrong.
2006-11-10 07:29:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to u is they may dont want to let u grow up. Try to act more mature about sistuations letting them know that u are growing up. U can try sitting down with them to try tell them how u feel. They may listen u never know
2006-11-10 14:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by Fallin out of Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like they are starting the empty nest syndrome. You should invite them places with you sometimes. Let them know what you are doing and where. Just hang in there youll be old enough in a few years to leave home and dow what everyou want.
2006-11-10 07:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by tjnw79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication. Communication. Your parents are only looking out for your best interests and safety. Communicate with them in a mature fashion and I'm sure you all can reach a common ground.
2006-11-10 07:28:35 · answer #10 · answered by MICHAEL R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to them and stop thinking that you are always right because you are not!!! You are a child not a adult and if your parents are strict then it is because they know more about life then you do. So stop acting like alittle brat and maybe you might get more privilages.
2006-11-10 07:26:33 · answer #11 · answered by homie_j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋