My bf says he doesnt love me any more(although i dont fully believe it b/c he never knows what he wants and he always changes his mind). Even if it's true, do you think it's possilbe that he'll relove me if i can get him to try one final chance with me? We already tried it twice but this time is gonna be different b/c we fully realized our problems and had possible solutions. But he doesnt have faith this time it's gonna work? How can i convince him it's different b/c this time we are actually gonna do a lot of communication instead of just hanging out but not talk much? Thank you. Please tell me what to say to him to make him willing to try once more and hopefully we wont blow it this time and convince him people can relove each other if the move is right? How should i talk to him?Thanks a lot!
2006-11-10 07:23:04 · 7 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my opinion, if you love someone, you never stop loving them. The type of love may change, but I doesn't go away. He is probably tired of the emotional rollercoaster ride you both have taken each other on a few times. He probably is drained from the break and make up routine. Do you really think that after two times, without any changes, that the third time will be the charm? I have been down this road with my child's father; which made me want to try even harder to make things work between us. I know that people change, and so do feelings, especially after too much petty bickering and arguing. It could be that even though you two can hang out and have fun together, that relationship-wise you two aren't a good match. And you know they say if it don't fit, you can't force it. You could do one of two things, tell him how you really feel and then SHOW him versus telling him how things will change and BE TRUE TO YOUR WORD, then go from there, he might not take you back too soon, but if he sees you are committed to trying to do better, it might help to change his mind, or else suck up your feelings and keep it moving. Meaning do your best to occupy your time with something (or someone else) to get over him. Not like you should go hook up with someone to get over him, but give yourself time to mend your heart, and get those feelings for him under control. Whatever you decide, make sure it is the best thing for you. All the best.
2006-11-10 07:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by TRUTH HURTZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Huangxun
I got you email today. I tried to answer you back but this time it wouldn't go through. Something about that your yahoo address has not been confirmed.
Anyway you wanted to know what I think might be going through your bf's mind since we are kind of alike.
A couple of times I had to do the breaking up,and the experience was painful and agonizing. I certainly did not want to hurt the person's feelings, but the relationship was not what I wanted and sometimes you got to do what you got to do. I see that your questions about your bf goes back 3 months. You must really love him to keep hanging on like your doing. After all this time I would guess that his mind is made up. And don't think I haven't experienced the crushing pain of rejection by someone I loved.
I thought I would never get over it,but in time I did. And there is still a tenderness in my heart for her that will always be there.
You said that you are going to talk to him on the phone tonite. I hope all goes well. I wish you and you bf all the best.
If you drop me your email address I could get back to you a lot quicker.
2006-11-10 21:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by doggybag300 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please dont think third time lucky, as you say you have tried twice before,it does not work like that ,unless you can sit down antd talk your problems out together i think you should both move on and make new lives for yourselves,you may have to accept that he no longer loves you, it will be hard for you but you must ,otherwise you will be hurt even more the longer you stay together.sorry i hope you can face the future as it may not be with him,but there is someone else out there for you.dont give up looking, good luck.
2006-11-10 15:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by lynda w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once any relation had changed, it is very hard for the couples to have the same kind of feeling that they have before. if your bf have admitted that he don't love you any more I believe both of you should move on in your life. You may find it very hard to accept the truth but you have to face it ultimately. You can't simply force somebody to love you, otherwise you will be hurt in the long run.
2006-11-11 01:28:34 · answer #4 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, you hear of couples breaking up all the time and then getting back together, even married couples divorcing then getting remarried after a long split. Just be patient and let things work them out by themselves. If it is meant to be, then he will come back to you. Good luck!
2006-11-10 15:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by aloneinga 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he playing with your heart,you can never ask anyone to love you.And no one can tell you what to say to him,you are the one who knows him.If you think the relationship is not working and there's no way of mending it..then it's time to move on.there are alot of other men out there who are waiting to be loved.
2006-11-10 15:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the situation. If you guys are ment to be then it will happen on its own.
2006-11-10 15:26:51 · answer #7 · answered by taneshia_mcclain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋