Im a 13 yo girl. My mom makes wear bras that give much support and cover, says I need them and in part she's right. But I don't enjoy them, especially in Australia's heat. I wishI could wear other bras but mom is stubborn. We had several arguments over this, I got grounded a few times. Monday I really lost my temper , got scissors and in front my mom cut up the bras she gave me, I know this was wrong, apologized but my mom got REALLY mad at me. Punishment: She took me to a lingerie store and got me those bras called long line that covers all of your torso and have 10 hooks in the back, all of them made of very thich material. I'll have to wear them till Jan 15th, EVERYDAY,They are kinda uncomfortable, much orse than my other bras. I gotta wear all the time, except in bed. Dont you agree this punishment is too harsh and unfair? What do I do now? They make me sweat, hate them!
2006-11-10 07:06:04 · 18 answers · asked by Beth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Learn from your mistakes. These things cost money. Have you ever had to earn anything in your life?
2006-11-10 07:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to work on controlling your temper. I can't say that you were completely wrong, because I don't know the full story, or what other arguments you had with your mom, but destroying the old bras was definitely not a good move. You don't mention your bra size, so you very well may need extra support. Also, if you are very active, you will need a good support bra. I think you punishment is fair, she's has given you a time frame, so you know when it will be over. Start thinking about how to compromise with your mom on your new bras. Maybe you can get some of the support ones she likes and a few of a different style that you like.
2006-11-10 19:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by knihelpu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with the punishment nor do I agree with her making you wear something that you're uncomfortable wearing in the first place but you did cross a line and so now, just live and learn. What I would suggest is asking your mom if you can do a few chores around the house to earn some cash and begin buying the bras that you're most comfortable in... mention that just as she probably wouldn't be comfortable in a leather g-string, you're not comfortable in the type of bra that she's suggesting that you wear but don't do the usual teenage girl thing and shout it at her, if you sit down and talk to her like an adult, chances are she'll treat you like one also.
2006-11-10 15:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of listened to your mom in the first place. she tells you these things because she knows. Do you want to have breast problems from wearing a bad bra. You know that can happen but your only 13 so how could you have known. Stop argueing with your mom and start listening. And yes i think that was a good punishment. Each one of those bras your mom paid for with her money so you had no right to do that. Know if you want to tear things up, do it with stuff that you buy, not what your momma buys for you.
2006-11-10 15:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by homie_j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think your mom is being unreasonable.
You should be able to wear bras that are both comfortable and supporting.
Maybe you can find out if there are any available that would make you both happy. If not, you can make your own decision in just 5 short years!
2006-11-10 15:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That does seem harsh to me as well. Your mom may have been angry that you did that in front of her and she was trying to tach you a lesson. Sit down and calmly talk to your mom about the situation. Explain to her that they are uncomfortable for you and ask her about getting a proper bra fitting (most department stores will offer them). Don't get mad or upset, just stay calm and rational. Explain to her that in the heat they are very restrictive and make you sweat incessently.
I hope that helps a bit.
Good luck.
2006-11-10 15:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by bmbg2577 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, maybe your mom will relent and change her 15 Jan date if you stop complaining, take your punishment, and get on with it. The best thing to do is to be quiet and get through it. Just stop thinking or talking about the bra issue and maybe she'll realize you've learned your lesson.
2006-11-10 15:10:10 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea, Solomon would say to just keep appealing to her. Like just keep saying that they're really hot.... But you got to plead rather than shout or anything. Or you just could cry in front of her and refuse to move for a little while.- Like that's after presenting your case and her saying no a few times.- A sort of passive resistence thing.
2006-11-10 15:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were wrong to cut them up in front of your mom - She earned the money and bought you those bras!
2006-11-10 15:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU GO MOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! For pete's sake girl! you're only 13 years old!!! If you want to be accepted and treated like an adult with adult privileges, then grow up! How much money have YOU spent on your mother in the past 13 years????? Money doesn't grow on tree's ya know......it's earned and so is respect.
2006-11-10 15:14:40 · answer #10 · answered by sred 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋