Hi,
Sorry this is a long and serious question…
My uncle works offshore and has a clever little girl aged 8. He isn’t in a relationship with her mum but sees the girl regularly.
Recently the girls mum got a new boyfriend and things have escalated.
The mother has never been maternal with the girl or her 13 year old brother but since she got with her new boyfriend she has been worse.
The 13 year old is immature and naughty and usually ends up looking after his sister while their mother goes to the pub. On bonfire night the little girl was made to meet her mother at the pub ¾ a mile from home and had to walk alone in the dark.
The girl talks about disliking her mother a lot and hating her mum’s boyfriend.
On the odd occasion she does get to spend time with her mother it is down the smokey pub.
I am not sure how things really are at home and it concerns me.
Do you think I should talk to social services about this situation?
2006-11-10 07:01:31 · 14 answers · asked by James Ed 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm surprised you even are asking this question! Of course you should talk to social services about the situation!
2006-11-10 07:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think carefully if the little girl is taken into care then your uncle and the rest of the family might lose touch with her as well. do any of you talk to her mother? is she finding bringing up to children and having a new relationship difficult? can anyone of your uncles family (or even you) offer to take the little girl for a while maybe as an holiday so she can have a rest from what must be upsetting for her (not having her mother or father around). only has a last resort go to the social been there because someone got hold of the wrong end of the stick and didnot know the whole story. l was luck the social believed me. so think hard.
2006-11-12 06:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by WENDY L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i think he should have a words with the girls mum and not let things get out of hand. Kids have good intentions but things can get distorted and sometimes children can say things they think the other parent wants to hear. This can cause a lot of problems............................. I could be that simple and what is wrong with taking the kids out? I would get some facts sorted first before you make accusations to SS. They do a very good job and if you do ever need them they will intervene but. Be sure first.
2006-11-10 07:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I take it you are a family friend? Or close relative? In that case think carefully before going to them. Although they protect, they meddle into peoples lives too much and if you can see what's going on would it not be better in the first instance if you were to approach her rather than the authoritys?
I agree that this is not healthy and fair for the children but what can you do? Can you not offer help to the children while all this is going on? I guess you just want to make things right for them. Its hardly their fault and they were'nt asked to be born.
See what happens before you go jumping in.
2006-11-10 07:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by Scatty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Yes I do think you should talk to Social Services and also get in touch with NSPCC. I don't know whether they will do anything about it but at least you would have made them aware of the situation which is all you can do. I hope things work out.
2006-11-10 07:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by patsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should call them right now. When ever there is a concern like this it should be brought to the attention of Child Protective Sevices. They will do an investigation and decide what is best for the children. You will need to tell them all the info that you know. Do it for the childrens saftey. Please.
2006-11-10 07:06:47 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you know what i cant believe you are even asking this question you need to get in touch with the child line tonight and tell them what is going on don't even think about it just get on the fine rite this minute and sort it out don't wait until that child has been found dead and then you will have to live with that for the rest of your life your main concern is those dear children you hear so much today don't put it of until monday call the child line rite now you don't even have to give your name if you don't want to i cant understand why you haven't spoke to your uncle about this don't put it of do it rite this minute and good luck and for god sake keep a close eye on those dear children things like this makes me so angry i use to work with social services with children and it would break your heart if you new what was going on in-the world with young children i use to keep me awake at nite i use to lie in my bed thinking how could people treat their children so bad but they aren't people they are animals please don't put it of any longer DO SOMETHING RITE THIS MINUTE PLEASE I BEG OF YOU GOD BLESS
2006-11-10 07:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before going to Social Services you need to talk to your Uncle first. Is he aware of the situation? As her Father you really should involve him first, telling him that you are going to go to Social Services. But definitely go and talk to SS about the situation as well.
2006-11-10 07:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately.
2006-11-10 07:05:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if things are as you say you need to talk to them because it does not sound safe where the girl is and the mother is emotionally abusing her child
2006-11-10 07:09:06 · answer #10 · answered by Avis S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋